So....my husband has a total lack of empathy and is particularly arrogant especially on social media...arguing with people all the time and trying to make them look stupid. He lies constantly about various things (hiding alcohol...meeting a woman in a bar) and lies to the death unless I find out by mistake...I feel trapped as I rely on him financially due to a child. He says that my reaction to his lies are the problem as I get upset and angry...it's like he's become not bothered about any consequences...but the thought of leaving feels so painful..he is such a literal person that I'm beginning to think that maybe he has a personality disorder..he can be vile if we fall out and he not only lies but makes up stories to cerment the lies. He goes to the pub every night...am I just crazy for staying,why do I feel like I love this person or is it some kind of trauma bond...he has an avoidant personality type