Should I let my boyfriend pay for us both to go on holiday?

[Bellatrix14]

My boyfriend of almost two years (we don’t live together, which I guess is relevant) would like for us to go on a holiday abroad this year. I can’t afford a holiday abroad. He is happy to pay for us both to go, and can afford to do so, but I’m not really comfortable with him spending that amount of money on what is essentially a gift. My argument is that it is my “problem” that I can’t afford to go on holiday, and I’m uncomfortable with the idea of him subbing me. His slightly tongue in cheek argument is that he wants to go on holiday (and particularly that he wants to go with me), he won’t go on his own, so if I don’t go with him then I am indirectly depriving him of a holiday that he is very much looking forward to.

I would obviously like to go on holiday, but the independent side of me isn’t massively happy about being paid for. It would be a short, all inclusive break so it would be hundreds of pounds as opposed to thousands and we wouldn’t be spending a huge amount while we were there. I could stretch to some spending money!

Any thoughts from the wisdom of the internet?

I was seeing someone who wanted to take me and my younger daughter on a foreign holiday.
I would loved to have gone but I wasn't in love with him so didn't think it was right.

The following year I met dh.
I certainly would have let him take me away ❤️

Go it will be great.

Just make sure you tell him how lovely and generous he is, and like pp says buy him some meals out.

Go and offer to pay back in instalments?

Definitely go and enjoy. I paid for my now dh to go on a big long haul holiday when we had been together about 2 years. It was wonderful. I wanted to go and I wanted to go with him and I was the one with the well paid job at the time (he had just finished uni and was job searching).

I never even thought about it really. 10 years on, he’s supported me through 2 maternity leaves. I supported him through starting a business and then he supported me through a postgraduate degree.

If it’s a solid relationship and you’re in it for the long haul, it will all balance out.

Go! Years ago BF wanted to go back packing for a few months in the Southern Hemisphere. We had only been together 5 months, no way could I afford a ticket. He didn’t want to go without me so just paid for my ticket.
We’ve now been married 20 years. As pp said, it all evens out in the end.

He sounds lovely-go!

Go. You are not taking advantage.

My oh always pays, been together a long time tho, he earns almost twice my wage. He enjoys treating me, I always take some spending money which I give to him to put in the pot. We've been to Spain, Greece, Italy, Croatia, European city breaks, cruises, all of these several times, we go away at least twice a year, and were off to Asia.I make it up to him by treating him to little pressies, inexpensive things that I know he likes, support his hobby, his time with his family and his time with his friends. His friends think hes landed on his feet when he met me but it's a two way street. So I'd go if I were you, sounds like you've found a good un!

Go! Hes your bf if he wants to treat you, let him! Maybe get spending money?

Go and enjoy yourselves!!

I paid for a holiday for me and my partner once and he never once questioned it. We'd been together for a couple of years and it was a big once in a lifetime trip to New York. I enjoyed treating him and to be honest we didn't / don't view our finances as separate anyway.

I have been on both sides of this. With my ex I generally paid for treats like this - happily - because he didn't have the cash and I wanted to do stuff with him!

Now I am in the opposite position, with DP who earns more than me. I found it hard to accept at first but now I have made peace with it and try not to make a big deal out of it because actually it upset him when I would decline invitations on the grounds that I couldn't afford it when he was offering to treat me!

My now husband took me away 2 years in, paid for the lot although it was officially my birthday present so I didn't question whether it was right or not. I just enjoyed it!! Do it!

My GF is a straight down the middle type of person and feels exactly like you. It's a nice quality

Go!

My OH just took.me away to a festival. I couldn't afford it, he could and we both desperately wanted to go. I felt awful. He paid for the tickets, camping and food. I bought some drinks while we were there but he paid for probably 90%.

I told him beforehand i felt bad, as your DP has said, he wanted to go and particularly wanted to go with me. (both our fave bands were playing)

We had an amazing time.

You should 100% go!

My boyfriend has taken me away on holiday more than once, I'm skint, I take a bit of spending money and fill the petrol tank in my car for the airport drive but that's all I can afford. he's not skint and loves travelling, we both enjoy a break and we love the time alone relaxing together. Go for it :)

Do go, he has offered and is happy to pay for you. You can treat him a bit while you're away, meals and stuff, out of your spending money.
I hope you both enjoy.