Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Would you tell your friend about this?

16 replies

Underneath · 24/06/2019 23:24

Hi everyone, sorry if this is the wrong category but I wasn't entirely sure where to post it.

Anyway, I'm wondering what to do here...
I have a friend I've known for a very long time (over 10 years), let's call him Sam. Sam has a friend, let's call him Eric.

Sam and Eric have a very heated friendship where they have been arguing on and off a lot lately. Both Sam and Eric aren't in relationships, but want to be... and this is where the issues come in.
There have been times where Sam and Eric have been interested in the same person and it's caused tension. So much so that they have argued about it before. They also both share the same kind of hobby (video making) and it's opened up the social group, which in itself isn't an issue BUT a lot of dirty laundry has been aired behind one another's backs to the social group.

I recently found out that Eric got very angry at Sam at one point and created a fake account to talk to Sam.

Here's the kicker... He pretended to be a girl and started sexting him.

Eric sent sexual messages to Sam in order to mess with him, and I know for a fact he did it because he told me and a bunch of other online friends about it. He was even laughing about it.

Sam eventually sent him a slightly explicit image (not a nude image) and that's become a "joke" to Eric and his friends. Eric led Sam on for a while but I think Sam stepped away from it eventually.

One day, Sam started an online "thing" with a different woman and they got on well, but the friendship group (myself NOT included) didn't like this girl, including Eric. So arguments happened.

Apparently, Eric's fake account had been flirting with Sam online to annoy this girl intentionally and so, more arguments.

Some time went by and Eric told some of our mutual friends that he retired the fake account.

However, one day when we were all playing a game online, Eric and Sam had had an argument that day, and suddenly this fake account appeared again and was trying to cause a lot of drama. Sam told everyone to block her and ignore it, but I'd found out a few days before that, who that account really was.

Now, Sam and Eric are friends again, but Sam doesn't know about that fake account, and Eric going behind his back like that.

So, my question is... what would you do in this situation? I want to tell Sam what has really happened, but I know a LOT of drama will happen.

We're all in our mid to late twenties and I feel like this schoolyard drama shouldn't be happening (I'm never drawn to the drama, but I got dragged in when Eric confessed it all in a voice chat) and now I don't know what to do.

Telling Sam will mean he gets hurt and he'll be embarrassed about the things he said and pics he sent, but it would also mean that he has the opportunity to cut out some toxicity from his life. The problem with telling him is that it could mess up other friendships (since a lot have been made online) and I don't want anyone to get hurt. I liked Eric when I met him, but since he said that, I'm furious and I've been trying to work out what to do about it.

Any advice or opinions would be highly appreciated.

OP posts:
Musti · 24/06/2019 23:27

I would tell Sam and distance myself from the other immature idiots

XXVaginaAndAUterus · 24/06/2019 23:36

Fuuucking hell. You do know that there are whole swathes of grown ups who manage to have fun and enjoy friendship groups without drama and twattery? I'd tell Sam and bin the rest of them including him if he's as guilty for airing dirty laundry as Eric. Go hang out with grown ups.

Whatisthisfuckery · 24/06/2019 23:44

I’d get some new friends tbh. It sounds like something my 11 y o DS’s friendship group would get up to.

Underneath · 25/06/2019 00:08

@Musti, thank you! It has been the direction I've been leaning towards!

@XXVaginaAndAUterus Oh yeah, of course. My other friends are much more mature and I love their company. I hate the drama and it's sad that it's come to this. Sam's definitely airing dirty laundry a lot less than Eric, his was mainly regarding Eric when he'd done something shady.

@Whatisthisfuckery Honestly, everyone else is fine, the drama seems to have started because of Eric. Some people in the group do like drama but they're rarely the ones to initiate it.

OP posts:
SparklyMagpie · 25/06/2019 08:58

Fuck every bit of that off!!

How immature and childish

poopypants · 25/06/2019 10:25

It hurt my head to even finish reading the OP.

NameChangeNugget · 25/06/2019 10:49

I’d get new friends.

They all sounds about 12

PepsiLola · 25/06/2019 10:51

Wow! Even tho this is playground drama, it's also very serious.

You need to tell your friend about the fake account

wildcherries · 25/06/2019 10:54

That's beyond mean. I'd have to tell. And then I would reassess the friendships overall.

Live is very short to be dealing with drama like this.

wildcherries · 25/06/2019 10:55

*life. Obviously. This is why we need an edit button.

Ginlinessisnexttogodliness · 25/06/2019 10:56

I’m with @poopypants

How did you summon up the energy to convey this tale of juvenile dross to us?

You all need to grow up

ukgift2016 · 25/06/2019 11:19

I think Sam and Eric have unresolved sexual attention and they need to address it.

JQBased · 25/06/2019 11:37

Get new friends

Theworldcouldbemymollusc · 25/06/2019 11:43

Hopefully Sam and Eric will be in different classes when the move up to big school after the summer holidays.

NameChangeNugget · 25/06/2019 12:02

@Theworldcouldbemymollusc Grin

JaneJeffer · 25/06/2019 12:13

This sounds like a storyline from Hollyoaks.

If peace has been restored I wouldn't mention anything about it.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page