Name change for this. Been with DH for 6 years altogether, of those married for 2. Got an 8 month old baby and an older DD. Since having the baby things have just gone to sit really. I'm tired and although lost most baby weight still got about half a stone to lose. So I'm not feeling great about myself. We have sex about once every two weeks. Which is rubbish..but I'm tired and both kids have to be asleep for me to be able to relax.
He's not really helping with the baby at all. I have to ask him for 'help'. He works and cooks.
Since our baby was born he's been distant. On the phone all the time playing games (as far as I can tell). Or he's tired from work.
Recently he went up to bed at 8pm saying he's tired. He hardly spoke to me all evening after work. My baby monitor was on and I accidentally glanced at it only to find him having a wk!! As I didn't want to witness all of it I did go in to tell him the camera is on 
What bothers me is why wasn't he affectionate with me which could have led to sex once both kids are in bed?? He hardly even talks to me these days blaming his tiredness. And he really is always on his phone.
It almost feels like he's checked out. And after seeing him having a w*nk whilst I'm available so to speak I feel like checking out myself..as I would like nice conversation with a man, him having his attention on me and not his phone, be appreciated as a woman and shock horror-have sex! When I walked in he said that he was doing it because I wasn't going to have sex with him. I said actually he's right as he's not even bothered to talk to me.
Just to make it clear I don't have an issue with porn if I'm not available..
I don't know why the text is in different fonts but don't know how to change it. Oh what an idiot I am.