Aaagh - tell me to get a grip! Envy is creeping in..

[Newnewnewnames]

In my rational moments I know I am better off. I am free. DC live with me. I have a lovely house, detached, all mine (and banks 😉). I left him, abusive WNarc exh.
But in order for short, swift break I was rightly advised to sell him house to move on. I had already been bullied into leaving, he changed locks & I was scared of him.
Now I when I see beautiful house I am v pissed off - I paid for that!
Tell me to get a grip - if I could just have a couple of things to think from you lovely ladies, I will be able to get over this!
Aaagh, I'm making myself cross!!

You’ve said yourself you know you’re better off. You have everything you need and it’s normal to be a bit jealous of others! Just keep telling yourself how much better off you are now

Every time you go past just imagine you can see through the walls and see that nasty creep inside.

You have a nice new life now, enjoy!

You have your very own lovely house and your DC happily live with you. That's it - you have all you need right there. Well done you for breaking free.

If I knew you, I’d envy you more now than I would have then.

Your old house may look beautiful, but it didn’t make you happy. It’s just a well designed piece of architecture. All your horrid memories are in that place.
You are much better off in a lovely new place, with fresh new happy memores in.
congratulations on starting a new life! Don’t look back!!

I assume your previous house is larger than where you are now. If so, OK it's a lovely house BUT you no longer have to pay for its upkeep, the exorbitant Council Tax, heating the place and dealing with the day-to-day maintenance.

I'm a million times better off, but occasionally when I think of that beautiful kitchen WE designed and the fact that the fucker never cooks...I do get a bit annoyed at times!

Write a very honest letter, set fire to it and then drive past the house and throw the ashes at the house.

I’m old and this works for me

Thankyou everyone, you are all so lovely and so right!
I don't want to be responsible for the huge gardens.
I don't want to live where the DC can't play outside with their friends.
I don't want to live with a bullying twat who took all my money and made me feel stupid everyday.
I do want to be able to go to bed and leave the kitchen dishes out on the side because I can!
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And yes, I think more of me for leaving than staying there.
Thank you!

It's beautiful on the outside OP but it's just tricks and mirrors. Inside it's full of your pain.
Your new home can have a beautiful inner and thst matters more.

Well done