2 dates... continue or not?!

[Dogladyxo]

I’m stuck wether to continue with this lad or not. He’s very sweet, and my type physically.

The things that really bother me is he doesn’t really ask me ? About my life. He will txt and say have a good day and hope it was fun ect when I do stuff but in person nothing. I asked him two ? His background and middle name and he didn’t say and you? He’s a bit of a nerd which I don’t mind but he goes on and on about things which aren’t important to me and I find myself being bored, granted I asked him to tell me more.

Also kissed him and didn’t feel anything.

I’m not good at this dating this. Do I continue to see him and see if attraction grows? He also has adhd so I find myself a little exhausted after seeing him both times - talks a lot about himself.

But he’s funny, holds my hand kisses my cheek, messages everyday, good morals ect...

Ahhh I don’t know what to do!

Have one more date but if there is no spark then don’t have anymore

When you know you know, this doesn't sound like it has a future atm.

It would be a no from me

After two dates you should be excited and looking forward to seeing him again. If you're not, then you know what to do. I really don't think he's for you. It all sounds like very hard work.

It does sound like too much hard work. There are some people that I've noticed will never ever ask the other person back about themselves.. it might be nerves (people get excited talking about themselves and think about what to say next rather than inviting the other person to speak) but it can make you feel very lonely in the long run (almost like being in a relationship with a radio)

He is draining ... that’s a bad sign! Imagine seeing him 3 nights a week xx he is unlikely to be the right guy for you x x

Definitely nope.

If would be a 100% no from me. I think if this had legs, you’d be very excited about him at this stage.

It should not be this hard in the beginning...... You should be talking the ears off each other and leaping from conversation to conversation...... It's very much a two way street and if you're already having doubts it's unlikely to get any better ....... 😊

Thank you everyone for the responses it means the world... I know what I need to do now

I had the no questions thing. One day he sent me a series of messages throughout the day, each one was like a statement about himself! I didn't respond to any of them. Eventually he messaged me asking whether I was ok. I replied and explained that as he hadn't actually expressed any interest I hadn't had anything to respond to... He was absolutely mortified but it did the trick.

It's taken a bit of brain training but he is so much better now and has told me he has noticed relationships with friends and family are also improved as a result of him asking more about others.

We are still together 2 years later 😁