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Struggling big time with thoughts of my ex

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yolarut · 24/06/2019 13:37

My ex gf and I together three years. It would great until the last six months. Ten she told me she was unhappy but for whatever reason didn't break up with me just kept cancelling dates, being moody, not talking etc until I got so down about it all we 'mutually' broke up.
I was absolutely heartbroken. I asked to try and work things out after. She didn't seem keen. I asked her for coffee, she said 'thankyou'
She ignored me completely after I drove past her then text me after ignoring me for months saying I wasn't facing her to say hello.
She then continued texting me for a couple of weeks, sending me links to things I like etc, until a new guy appeared, he 'liked ' something of hers and boom she's gone. It was like th break up all over again and I'm really struggling to not think about her with this new guy. He's got everything she wanted, farmhouse, animals, although the looks a show off, pulling wheelies on motorbikes etc.
I still love her madly and think abiut her all the time.
I'm struggling cipe at the moment, I know it's clear she wants nithing to do with me, I'm just really struggling to undertake how she can move on so fast, maybe she never liked me as I thought she did?

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BertsFriend · 24/06/2019 14:19

It sounds as though she had lost interest 6 months before you broke up, the cancelling dates and being moody etc. was her way of making you break up with her because she didn't have the courage.

Whatever happens with the new guy, I don't think she'll come back to you romantically. Once you loose interest in someone it's normally gone for good. I'm sorry op, I know it's shit and it hurts right now but I think you have to try and forget her or it'll drive you mad.

yolarut · 24/06/2019 16:24

@BertsFriend
Yea he think you're right. It's a shame she never told the cause. I tried to fix things but ultimately I can't do it on my own. The hardest thing I've done was to 'agree' to break up. I knew she didn't want it anymore so couldn't see any other option. Almost felt backed into a corner.

It's definitely hurting, I'm trying so hard to 'let go' but I can't. She always pops into my head :( I'm even keeping busy, working hard, doing my hobbies etc it helps but doesn't get rid. I guess time will only help now

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