Interested to hear thoughts on this situation as I have very little experience of relationships lasting past a few dates and want to know if I'm being unreasonable wanting more at this stage.
- Met a guy a month ago from Hinge and seemed to be perfect. Loads of compliments, really genuine and lovely guy. It was almost so full on to the extent that I raised that I'd been hurt previously and was slightly wary.
- Had a couple of really really lovely dates where he acted the perfect gentleman. My only red flag was that his previous girlfriend had cheated on him and it had clearly broken his heart and they had only been broken up a year but he was insistent he was over it and wanted a relationship.
- Last week he all of a sudden went totally cold on me. Still texting regularly but none of the previous warmth etc. Didn't take any opportunity to stay at mine last week but when I asked him about it he said it was just work on his mind and he'd had a mental week which was true and fair.
We spent Saturday together and he was lovely until later in the evening when we'd both had a few drinks and he revealed he's terrified of being hurt again and so wants us to take things extremely slowly. I totally get this 100% and it's very sensible but at the same time I'm so confused as to why he all of a sudden 3 weeks in did a complete 180 on me. He did also say that he thinks he ticks all my boxes and I'm already convinced its right so I'm thinking maybe I've scared him off by being overly keen but I was only doing as much as he was. However we did both agree not to date anyone else and I trust that he's not.
Previously he was talking about going away together, told all his friends about me, invited me out with his friends etc and now he barely wants to plan anything together.
I do think it has potential and I've given him ample opportunity to end it so I do think he is still interested but maybe he's telling the truth and is just scared.
I've resolved to match his lack of effort this week and not be proactive in making plans together or anything but unsure if this is the right thing to do or whether I should just end it?