What was the final straw?

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I'm currently sat at work trying hard not to cry which is embarrassing as I'm public facing. I just don't think I can go on with my relationship any more. Things were looking up last week and this weekend has just ruined it for me. I'm expecting my first baby (his third) and my emotions are running high but he just can never give me an inch with it all. I'm apparently pathetic and ridiculous. I just don't think I can carry on with someone who lacks so much respect for me. Things are getting worse and I'm exhausted with it all. I get blamed for everything and then if I don't have sex with him I'm rejecting him. But quite honestly I don't feel like sleeping with someone who speaks to me like shit or like a child. He also keeps trying to "persuade" me to do things I'm not comfortable with even though I have explained to him how I don't want to do that and asked him nicely to stop going on about it.
Sorry for the rant just feeling really down today and can't shake it.

Just tell him no sex. Let him strop. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.

He should not be trying to make you do something you dont want! Have you been with him a while?

Ugh. Can you go and stay with anyone while you think about things?

Putting pressure on someone is abuse in the way you've described.
Also it certainly sounds as though your partner has little respect for you. He's already fathered 2 children so I doubt this is him feeling nervous.
He ought to be treasuring you thoughout your relationship, especially right now, pregnant with his child.
What's his relationship like with his other 2 children?
This isn't working for you. I doubt very much when your gorgeous baby is here he will suddenly see the light.
If I were you, I'd leave. The danger is that once baby is here you'll have that as an excuse to stay. No child wants to be raised in that sort of environment. Too many distinctions adts exist today because of their messed up childhoods. Please don't let your little one endure the same fate.
I left my tosser of a husband and I'm so happy I did. My children 3.5 and 15 months are being raised in a secure home surrounded by positivity and love. Their mother is not pathetic, I'm everything to them. They are everything to me. I did not want years of sadness whilst raising my children. Sod him. He's had his chance. Now kick his ass out.
I would get organised first though. Then when you're ready, just go. It prevents them from having control etc.
Do this for yourself and your baby. Everything your imaging having a baby is about, take it. Don't settle for anything less. X

Ugh like others said can you stay with family or friends, this sounds awful op.

Putting pressure on someone is abuse in the way you've described.

This!!!

My own final straw was when he texted me (in the middle of the day, for no apparent reason): "Ugh, I hate this job almost as much as you hate sex!"

That was when I realised I had married an utter cunt who wasn't even capable of complaining about work without simultaneously engaging in emotional blackmail.

I told him I wanted a divorce that very night.

@ozziewozzie His relationship with his children is good and with his ex too which is great for him and the children but has caused me pain (I have my reasons). Consequently I don't have much to do with his family and he doesn't have anything to do with mine. I could stay with my mum which I might do to get some space I just feel that I'm backing down by leaving.

@takenforslanted I can imagine getting a similar message. What a pig... Was he shocked by divorce or accepted it?

He was utterly shocked, of course. And immediately started arguing that he hadn't really meant "sex" but "anal". And didn't comprehend how that wasn't making the entire situation even one bit better.

He's still a major cunt - but, luckily for me, some other poor woman's husband at this point. I feel very sorry for her. She seems nice.

Anyway, my point was: it's abusive and not worth trying to work out. Walk away and never look back. Better things await.

Abuse often begins/escalates during pregnancy so you are not alone. Abusive men rarely change and indeed the abuse increases over time. Only you can decide if you want to live this way. I have read that really form boundaries can protect you from abuse. In my experience he blurred boundaries so much and stepped over them so often it became impossible to police them!

You have a window of opportunity now to leave him and escape his abuse. It's hard when yore pregnant to contemplate going it alone. However, once the baby has arrived it gets harder to turn back.

Leave him and distance yourself from him.