Recently I had an experience with a very close friend where they stonewalled me after an argument. I think we were both in the wrong in the argument and I apologised for my part. But from them - nothing. Total non-responses - I reached out on more than one occasion and they never even replied. It was horrible and really upset me - I had no idea how they were feeling, the whole thing made me feel a little crazy and not knowing if our friendship was over or if they just needed more space literally made me lose sleep.
I recently bumped into them and they suggested we meet, which we are doing later in the week. I'm pleased, but the stonewall really hurt me. It made me feel undignified, and it hurt my sense of self to chase them. I got there in the end in terms of them talking to me but i can't help feel that I compromised myself somehow in the process.
I want to see if they'll apologise to me but because of the stonewall I feel like I have admitted wrong but they haven't and that makes me uncomfortable. I feel like we need to have a chat about the initial fight but I don't want them to stonewall me again though.
Has anyone been able to address conflict like this and things change? Do you have any advice?