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Which of these scenarios seems more genuine and likely to work out long term?

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Aryaneedle · 24/06/2019 08:17

Insomnia has made me think weird questions about things all night so I thought I'd ask MN as you are brilliant!

Scenario 1: you have had a FWB type over a few years with someone and the sex seems to be where you HAVE to do it with each other, you are so attracted to each other that you can't stop yourselves every time you see each other and you can't seem to make a clean break even when you've agreed. You always end up contacting each other anyway, not just for the sex but because you get on so well. You both seem to like each other the same amount. Nobody in your lives knew you were seeing each other.

Scenario 2: You have an emotional connection with a person, you are in love with them. You are in an official relationship. They say they love you but you aren't sure they fully do. You have the same values and outlook though and they love spending time with you. The sex is good when the emotional connection is right but it doesn't seem to have much passion, it's not an overwhelming 'need' for either. Sometimes the other person doesn't seem as into it as you are.

Which scenario would you say was more genuine? Have you ever had an experience like scenario 1 or 2 or both? Interested to know what happened. Thank you.

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HennyPennyHorror · 24/06/2019 08:29

Scenario 1....depends on the reasons for the FWB being set up in the first place. I"m sceptical about FWB type scenarios full stop. Call me old fashioned but if you like someone, have good sex...then commit and have a bloody relationship!

I think the first one is more hopeful than the other.

Aryaneedle · 24/06/2019 08:38

Scenario 1 - he was going through a divorce and had 50/50 care of his dcs (another reason why they got on so well) so FWB wasn't really set but just happened.

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Buyitinbamboo · 24/06/2019 08:41

Probably scenario 1 but I'd still feel like I was settling. Neither sounds perfect

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 24/06/2019 09:38

Neither! Scenario 1 sounds like you were hidden and scenario 2 seems disjointed. I'd move on from both

NameChangeNugget · 24/06/2019 09:45

Scenario 1

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