Now I know it's me!

[purpleflowers25]

Hi, looking for advice, as I am really starting to think it's me!
I am on POF, and I would like to know if these 2 situations are weird.
I was talking to a really nice guy online, after a few weeks we exchange numbers. However, as I didn't text him for one day (really busy, stressful situation at work), when I did message him he said as I didn't message he didn't want to keep in contact any more!
I then started chatting, quite casually to a guy online, we exchanged numbers as he seemed really nice. We started chatting by text today, and the 5th message from him said how he was thinking about me last night and how horny he was.
Now I am no prude, I don't really like online dating (would prefer to meet in real life, but it just isn't happening), but are these situations weird? Am I wrong to want someone to get to know me as a person, or am I too old fashioned on this online world?
Please feel free to tell me the truth as I am starting to really think its me!

No its not you!

Honestly, these stories are quite mild when it comes to OLD from what I've heard. You've got off lightly so far...

Horny guy is only interested in sex and may be married

First guy is the one with the problem - quite a significant problem to react completely ott over something so small.

This is not unusual at all OP. And sadly something you will have to become de-sensitised to. I've lost count of the number of guys I've exchanged numbers with, who seem lovely and keen to meet and then they just disappear. Or the ones who turn the conversation to sex straight away.
The first guy is clearly a weirdo so you dodged a bullet. The second guy is very typical of OLD. He could be any of the following:

• just looking for sex talk but with no intention of meeting
• married/attached
• just wants sex

Personally I started blocking any guy who started with any sex talk before we had even met. Sadly you just have to persevere through the freaks OP. You will learn to pick up on the strange ones and block before you waste too much time. IT IS NOT YOU!

Oh and I guarantee that the first guy had either started to talking to someone else anyway or had no intention of meeting you so was just being a total arse.

From what I can gather this and much worse is the norm in OLD, from both genders. See this thread for expert advice and support:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3615931-dating-thread-162-don-t-wanna-be-all-by-myself

I'm 21 and can say from my previous experience of tinder this is what most men are like. They just one night stands etc and if you don't give this vibe they will often ignore and stop messaging. However, I did meet my boyfriend on tinder eventually so its not all bad! But its definitely not you.

You need to pick a better class of dating site!

@Ginger1982 no such thing!

It's not you.

I briefly went on tinder. Got loads of weirdos. One guy who sent me a load of abuse because he introduced himself and I didnt respond within 15 minutes.

Then one guy sent me a message that said 'I have a hankering for eating pussy. You up for it?'

I just came off it. Couldnt cope with shit like that

@crappyday2018 I met my husband online. It is possible to meet someone nice who wants the same things you do.

@Ginger1982 and I've recently met someone on POF so its not all bad. What I'm saying is ALL the sites have creeps and weirdos, some more than others of course.

It's not you.

These men need to be told. 'I don't know you. I'm not happy discussing that with you YET'

You are right to call out unacceptable behaviour, but can I suggest that messaging for weeks is a waste of time. Meet. For 30 minutes after work, sort of a date preview. That way you see if a) they exist b) you have any kind of real-life attraction c) they are actually interested in or able to meet up.

Thank you all so much for your message, they are much appreciated and made me feel much better. Hopefully my luck will change soon, I guess it is a lesson learnt!!

Not you at all, it's full of this.