Hi, I need some advice.
Apologies in advance for the long post...
My partner and I have been together for 12 years and have a 2 year old together and recently my 14 year old niece came to live with us.
My OH works full time, I also did up until our child was born and now I work from home part time on a business we're trying to start up.
Throughout our 12 years together we've had a lot of ups and downs but we've always stayed together and worked through things.
Over the last few weeks my OH has been very snappy and short with me and last night we had a huge row were he told me I wasnt pulling my weight. He said I always forget to do things he asked me to do because there not important to me but I'll always do the things I want to do because they are important. He also said I'm not managing the household good enough as I shouldn't have to be doing household chores on weekends, they should be done through the week so we can do things as a family on a weekend.
The things is, with the exception of the garden (he does this) I spend my whole week looking after our little one and now a teenager, cooking, cleaning the house and cleaning up after everyone, washing clothes, walking the dog and working on our business.
The only household chores I do on a weekend is general tidying up, cooking, and washing work clothes and school uniforms which kind of have to be done at the weekend. He does the odd DIY thing which I've stopped asking him to do now as he just gets annoyed and starts moaning when he's doing it.
He pays all the Bill's and also has the added pressure of helping one of his parents out with money as they're struggling.
When he comes home from work mon-fri he doesn't lift a finger except to spend time with our little one while I'm cooking or something.
I know I could be more efficient in doing these things but he literally said he's had it up to here and was even thinking of leaving at one point.
I know I'm forgetful and I do sometimes have to be reminded of doing things he's asked me to do like buying something in for him. But do you think he's over reacting and if so what the hell is going on?? Is there any other SAHM who are doing all of this much better than I am and therefore I need to step it up?
Really need some advice because I thought I was doing pretty well and now I'm being told I'm not be efficient enough and not prioritising what he needs me to do???