Can you report an ex? Clare’s law

[JK1773]

Hi all. This is asking for information really. I was chatting to some friends recently about my ex and things he used to do. He was coercively controlling, he installed spyware on all my devices, he date raped me, he was all round vile really. I’m long gone and well over it but my friends suggested I report him to the police in case any present or future partners of his have concerns and it would show a pattern of behaviour. Is this even possible? I don’t want to start any police investigation. I have no idea if he has a partner now. They suggested a Clare’s Law search could show what he’s like if I reported it but I’m not sure if that’s even possible. I definitely would not want him to know about it. Anyone know?

You can report him for crime, yes.

You can't just report him for being what he was so the police can 'pass it on'

I thought that. My friends were adamant I could. I think I’d have to report a crime for investigation and I don’t want that. Not that he doesn’t deserve it!!

Yeh you would have to report it as a crime which I personally wouldn’t after so long as it’s unlikely to go anywhere (sad reality)

Yep, shame. Sometimes it’s the space and clear head that comes with a lengthy separation that makes you see what went on more clearly

Pps are right. You can make a complaint and it would be investigated as a crime.

I do think a clares law search would show crimes he has been arrested and questioned about. So if he had been arrested 3 seperate times for but never been charged, that's visible.

But it wont end up on there unless you report it as an actual crime.

Imagine of anyone could call the police and make an accusation and it went straight in a file incase someone made a Clares law application. That wouldnt be right

You can report it and then complete a statement which says you do not support a prosecution. The police would understand your motive (to protect others). Most of the time the crown prosecution service won't pursue a conviction without the support of the victim, but occasionally they will do if the severity of the crimes warrants it and they think they can secure a conviction. From what you've said it's unlikely they could without your compliance and evidence, and in fact with it after a long time it would be hard, so there's a good chance they wouldn't try for it. However they may approach him, so consider how you would feel about him knowing. I would give some thought into ringing police domestic abuse department and asking for their advice, don't give your name or his if that makes you feel more comfortable as then they can't record a crime. It would certainly be helpful to others for this stuff to be on record, but at the end of the day this is your life and you have to live with any consequences, so gather information before you set off down the path I would say.