Up until I was about 21 I’d always been in long term relationships, then moved to London single and eager to start online dating as the apps were the new hot thing at the time.
I’m now 27 and in that time must have been in close to 100 dates. Of course there’s also been short lived relationships (5-6 dates) which haven’t worked for various reasons but mainly the guys haven’t been ready for anything serious. I’ll admit that my type is very much good looking guys who turn out to be dicks.
Then this time last year I met the most amazing guy, we had incredible chemistry and for a couple of months everything was amazing. Then he revealed his depression which I tried to help with but it just wasn’t working although this went on for months with me ending it finally a couple of months ago. In short he totally broke my heart and I just couldn’t believe he could change so drastically from the incredible guy I’d first met to someone who couldn’t care less about me.
By this point I’d pretty much given up on meeting someone until a few weeks ago when I met a guy and had instant attraction/chemistry. He’s absolutely lovely and the first guy I’ve ever dated to treat me like an absolute princess. Just silly things that I should probably expect but guys have never done for me in the past.
Now to my questions -
- How do I convince myself to stop worrying about him going off me and just enjoy it for the moment? I think because of how heartbroken I was last year I’m reading into everything and imagining any little thing means he’s met someone else/isn’t as interested in me anymore. And I can feel myself questioning a lovely guy for no reason.
- Due to being insecure about the above I find myself obsessing over him. I’m very mature, professional and educated however I find myself obsessing over every little thing and I’m worried I’m coming across as needy.
I’ve been single for almost 6 years now and I very much want a relationship, I just have no idea how to handle one!