Should I break ties with my boyfriend ?

[thefirehasbegun]

Hello,

I've NC as I'm so embarrassed that I've allowed this "relationship" to continue.

My boyfriend and I broke up 7 months ago but. A couple of weeks ago, we decided to make another go of things and try again.

Now yesterday, boyfriend is persuading me to come and see him. I told him that I don't want to as I wanted to do things for myself on my day off ( go to a facial- just do something nice for myself). I'm a full time student and I work, and today is my day off. I generally like to catch up to the things I couldn't do during the week, have a bit of me time etc. Is that wrong ? Boyfriend then complains and says "you never make time for me", starts acting stroppy. Bearing in mind that he lives two hours away and going to his is like a day trip- meaning that I cannot get much stuff done on my day off. He also lost his job, no income, debts and is not at the best place at the moment.

Anyway, I relented and agreed to see him. Now, I met up at his, we watched a movie and had sex. We stopped and I wanted to be done with sex as we have been at it for an hour- and you know I want to spend a bit of time with my boyfriend, talking, catching up with our day etc. Boyfriend complains, saying why, he wants to continue and that I'm always doing this. I just thought "oh no, not this again" and I tell him that I better "go". I get my stuff ready and his in the background saying that he wanted to carry on, that I'm always doing this. I'm getting upset and when I grab my bag from one is his rooms, I noticed a females 16 plus Oyster card. I went to him and confronted him and he said "don't be ridiculous, look at this age, I would never go with a 16 year old".

At this point, I've had enough and tell him that I want to go. So he gets up, opens his door, throws my shoes out of his flat and tells me "Go then ! Go !" And slams the door. I just went.

I was literally crying on the way back from the train. He starts calling me, which I obviously ignore. Then texts me to tell me that I've forgot a few things. I told him to "keep them" and I blocked him.

What I want to know is... from this point, what should I do ? Is this petty and I'm just making a big deal out of it ?

I'd go and get the morning after pill just to be really, really, reeeaaallllly sure I never had to have anything to do with him ever again.

Take it as a blessing you live so far away from him, as it means you'll never have to bump into him again. Send him a short, sharp text to confirm you're finished, then block him on every platform. Then that's it, your done.

Congratulations on your freedom.

Oh God, bin him lifes too short for that kind of dickery! You'll look back on this in time and wonder why on earth you wasted so much time on that bellend! Find a guy who actually brings something to the table... do you even enjoy spending time with this stroppy guy?

Just block him on everything. Delete his number and promise yourself not to respond if he ever somehow manages to contact you. Focus on something else... plan a solo trip or learn something new or start going to the gym etc pour your energy into that so that you can distract yourself from thinking of it... over time it will get easier and easier and eventually you will be able to move on. It helps that hes so far away from you.