Unsure before I've even met him?

[Moofreemum1]

Been speaking to a guy for 2 weeks on social media. Meeting him tonight, I vaguely know of him in my city. His ex is a friend of an ex friend of mine. He seems polite and nice. We seem to have alot in common.

However I'm not friend with him on Facebook but his profile is set to public so I can see it. His last post was a repost that said "I'm going off the rails, who's coming"
On another social media platform a few days ago he shared something that said "do you want to exist? Yes/no".

Why would he been sharing this stuff?? I feel like these could be red flags and it's slightly put me off of him. I'm not hugely excited about tonight but keep thinking he could be ok. What would you do In my position? Go or not go?

No I wouldn’t go to be honest.

Shes, I've been with my other half years, and love him madly but still raise my eyebrows over some of his naff posts on social media lol.

If you like him, go and see what hes like. It seems like you're looking for an excuse not to go

So not to drip feed I was in an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship 3 years ago but left and went into a refuge with my ds. So don't know if I'm overly sensitive and looking for things that aren't there.

He either sounds about 12 or like he has some mental health issues.

Either would put me off and I wouldn’t go.

I might post the first one mentioned.
The 2nd one is a bit alarming though.
This is up to you though.
Might be worth a quick meet up.
If you aren't feeling it then you can leave.

That would put me off massively..id take it as a 'fore warned is fore armed' kinda way.

Yea that's what I'm thinking. Is this fore warning me what's to come. I've had a few emotional vampires in my time and I won't deal with that again. He is mid 30s so not young and naive so I wonder why he is posting these things unless to get attention?

Thats social media for you though i suppose, people dont often portray their real selves and it can be misleading/attention seeking. Id go with your gut feeling on this one OP.

It would put me off. I'd probably meet up but have an excuse ready if there were any red flags on the date.

A man's perspective - I rarely agree with the rush you get on here to dump/not meet someone over a minor infraction when they're an otherwise potentially decent match. I wouldn't meet this guy though.

At best it's attention seeking guff, and that's a straight red in itself. Bin.

I went on the date and he seems nice but very open which some would say is great but I don't know. He told me he has had depression before didn't go into it other than that . For some reason people feel comfortable telling me their life stories straight away.

Telling life stories straight away can also be a technique to create a false sense of intimacy quickly.

I wouldn't be massively off put by his posts, but I'd be dubious about his judgement in having his profile public. What's that all about?

Do you think you will see him again?

I wouldn't bother seeing him again. Two red flags at this point is a no thanks. Imagine the drama 🙄

If he'd posted 'I'm going on a date tonight but she's already been stalking by Facebook profile and I haven't even met her ' everyone would have yelled red flag too

He has everything public so anyone can see. Nothing wrong with having a nosey about someone you're going on a date with to see if they are who they say they are. Having a nosey at a public profile isn't stalking. Stalking is a serious crime and it pisses me off that people use the word glibly.

Go with your gut

Being super open super quickly can be a bit of a red flag and often (presumably often subconsciously not maliciously) a way to try to bond with people, or even to lock them into a feeling of responsibility eg I can't stop seeing him because he might hurt himself etc.

If you've been in an abusive relationship before I'd steer clear of anyone making you feel uneasy for any reason - you've done so well to get out of that situation that you must now start to listen to your spidey senses.