Getting hard

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me and my boyfriend have been having. Bad time the last few months I found out he wanking and paying for porn sites ect, all sorted now I think, he was wanking when I was in the house with our kids, he said he would stop and wouldn't go on the site ect anymore, last night I showed him a clip of a porn video, (we know the man in it and I thought it was funny, but he got hard over it! Should I be worried? Even though I could see he was hard he lied and said he wasn't got all defensive and started having a right go at me? Am I in the wrong for point it out and getting moody because he was hard!

If your sex life is back to normal and there’s no other signs he’s using it as before then is try to let this go. If he had a serious porn addiction he’s going to get an automatic reaction to seeing it out of the blue.

@CookieDeal yeah are sex life is so much better o guess I didn't think, I only showed him because a group of my friends sent it to me because he the hair dresser we go to 😂

Too many issues to unpack here...

Ok, so can you sort of see it from his POV? Assuming he kicked hits habit and you say your sex life is back to normal - it probably wasn't easy and he probably felt ashamed. So for you to show him the video out of the blue and then have a go at him for his reaction?

I mean, don't get me wrong, I think porn-addicted men are really bad news for a relationship. But I can sort of see how this might have felt unfair to him and he might have felt defensive?

@CookieDeal yes I do now I feel bad 🤦‍♀️

You might as well have offered a reformed smoker a cigarette, then got on their case when they smoked it.

Don't want your partner to watch porn? Don't fucking show it to them and say "Here, watch this!"

🤦‍♀️

Too many issues to unpack here...

So unlike the homelife of our own dear queen