Should I tell the woman my ex is seeing that I stayed over?

[Anon975]

Me and my ex broke up in September, we were toxic together in a relationship but we've always gotten along as friends

Well we hadn't spoken for a couple of month, just both busy with our lives, but we started talking again a few days ago

I went over his last night, just for a catch up and a bit of a movie/takeaway night
Things happened between us which I was fine with since he'd told me he wasn't seeing anyone and hadn't slept with anyone in months

Later on we were watching another film and I saw someone pop up on his phone, the way he acted about it made me suspicious
so this morning (I stayed since it was too late to go home and I don't drive) I done some snooping and found out he's actually been talking to this girl for a while and they had sex Tuesday night..

I'm not at all interested in being in a relationship with him again, but I don't know if I should warn the other woman or just leave it alone?

Your relationship was toxic, but so is your friendship. He lies and you snoop. That's never going to work.

Your relationship was toxic, but so is your friendship. He lies and you snoop. That's never going to work.

^^ this

Your relationship was toxic, but so is your friendship. He lies and you snoop. That's never going to work

^ agreed.

It’s also weird as fuck to be in a relationship that so toxic and then continue as a friendship and hooking up.

nothing wrong with hooking up with an ex as long as no one's feelings are caught up in it

No feelings enough to then snoop through his phone

Look he sounds horrible and as a pp said you are in denial about your feelings toward him. If you really had none, you would not have intentionally (yes it was) gone over there to sleep with him, asked about his recent romantic endeavours and snooped on his phone.

Get rid of him entirely from your life without explanation or notification. Take your dignify back. You deserve better especially from yourself.

Do not contact the woman, you are just giving them both ammunition to call you a bunny boiler.

You knew something would happen. You know he is not just an ex that you are friends with.

You know something was between you two.

I wouldnt contact her, because you have no idea if she is just someone he had sex with or his girlfriend. He may not be un an exclusive relationship with her.

If a girl contacted me telling me she slept with her ex and I had recently had sex with him, but not in a relationship with. I would think she was batshit. I would definitely call him and tell him.

I can bet he will be wondering how you got so much information out of just seeing one message from her. And that you were bat shit and end any contact.

Also just FYI there is nothing wrong with hooking up with an ex as long as no one's feelings are caught up in it

But you're clearly both feeling something if he's lying and you're jealous and snooping on his phone.

Weird as fuck

Also just FYI there is nothing wrong with hooking up with an ex as long as no one's feelings are caught up in it

No feelings, yet you managed to get enough information from seeing one message and cared enough to track her down? Figure out they had been talking and that they had sex on Tuesday.

Why go snooping on an ex? . Time to move on with your own life.

So what. You have no idea if they're exclusive or have just met a couple of times. It's none of your business.

If he's so toxic, then why hang and and have sex with him?
Doesn't make sense.