Is this cheating?

[standingtall71]

My bf on 19 months recently sext some random on a ‘f**k’ site... created a profile and discussed what he likes...

There were some issues leading up to it where I take full responsibility but what he did... was his choice.... but is it cheating, is it forgivable and how do I know he’s not carrying it on whenever stuff gets hard!?

The worst part for me is that he promised sincerely he would NEVER do anything like that to me... I always had my doubts though and I was right....

We don’t live together.

Yes. I am concerned that you even question it.

It's cheating if you think it is cheating. You get to set your own boundaries of what is acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship. And it doesn't actually matter whether someone labels it cheating or not.

Doesn't matter if you label it "cheating"
Cheating is just a word or a label
He agreed not to do something
Then he did it

Auntiestella is spot on.

Whether or not we think it's cheating is irrelevant. It completely depends on how you feel.

Personally I'd say it's 100% cheating and would walk away. If he's taken the time to sign up and create a detailed profile, he has every intention of using the site for its intended purpose.

For me, it doesn't matter what you label it...he promised you he wouldn't do something, but then went ahead and did it anyway. If you let him away with it and continue to have him in your life...it will escalate.

Is it acceptable to you?
That's all that matters here.
He's is showing you who he is.
Pay attention.
Personally, he'd be dumped quicker than you can say 'fuck off'
But it's your life.

Yes it is cheating. 100%

It’s cheating because he has betrayed your trust. He has ‘cheated’ on your trust iykwim. Sounds like a really odd thing to do as well...