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I don’t feel ‘seen’ in my relationship

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Jemimaaa · 20/06/2019 16:33

I may just be creating an issue out of nothing, but I wonder if anyone else feels this way. My boyfriend is truly a lovely man, very generous and helpful around the house, very considerate of me etc.

However I increasingly don’t feel ‘seen’ or like my true self is known - I have a sense that he’s in love with an idea of me and the real me is just underneath. I can be myself at home in the sense that I can walk around in an old dressing gown looking like shit, so I don’t mean it in that way - only that I feel I have lost parts of myself since being with him and there is another side of me. Wasn’t always like this and don’t know what’s changed. Anyone?

OP posts:
janeoftgejungle · 20/06/2019 18:28

I think you have to explain yourself a bit more. What do you mean not seen. Does he not listen to you, ignore your needs etc.

FuriousVexation · 20/06/2019 18:31

Manic Pixie Dream Girl syndrome?

DoYouThinkHeLikesMe · 20/06/2019 18:32

I had this in my last relationship - I felt he was in love with the idea of me rather than me. Only lasted 6 months before I realised this and it took me 3 days to process it and end it.

Keaneno1fan · 20/06/2019 19:09

You mean he is not interested in you enough?

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