when theres kids involved...

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what can you do if your in an abusive relationship and you know the only way out of the hell is if you run away with no contact but theres kids involved? i know the police will only hold him for a few hours as ive seen it oon here before and if i give him contact he will just use suicidal threats to get me back (i can't handle them) or try to keep our DC.
how do you go to a refuge and why do womens aid never answer the phone

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Document the abuse, old stuff if you have it, and any new stuff. If you've got enough evidence already, leave and get a solicitor to apply for an emergency protection order and be prepared for a non-molestation order when things kick off.

Best thing is for you to go see a solicitor who will be able to advise you. Maybe citizens advice if you don't have money for a solicitor.

Good luck and sorry you're going through this

Hello sorry you are going through this- can you get some support from family?

I'm sorry. I made the mistake of leaving my ex who abused me and my children. We were on high rush with the police and I had him admitting to it in emails. But through courts and cafcuss he is getting away with it. He has put me and my children through hell and simply nobody believes me not even with evidence of hospital reports police reports and emails. I don't have a solictor and his family are loaded. I'm breaking court orders and will likely go to prison but he sexually abused my two girls and son and I now have a baby with my new partner that is not going great. I give up a really good job in the film industry to be with my children after what they went through. I feel totally helpless. All I would say before you leave go to a solictor and see what your case is looking like and take it from there

Women's Aid never answer the phone - I totally agree. But the Police should have reported your details to them - and social services as you have children. Contact the Police and ask why they aren't following guidelines.

Oh, just saw you said Police won't hold him due to what you've seen here - not in RL.

Try reporting him to the Police and go from there. The Police were very supportive to me - and opened the doors to the other help

Thank you everyone, i just feel so useless, like i am alive but i'm not living anymore, i have my mum and dad but if i go there he stalks me and demands to see DC but uses them as a weapon when he has them texting me saying this is my final goodbye to them and i'll end my life tomorrow.
I did really want to go to a refuge to feel safe and have people there who understand to help me but i'm guessing they are always full.

They are full but they do get spaces.
Please keep trying Womens Aid.
Google your local one and try the local number rather than the national one.
Call 101 and report it all to the police.
Ask for the DV unit.
You can also call SS and ask for their help.
Reach out to as many organisations as you can.
Someone will be able to help you.
If you are looking for housing, Shelter may be able to help you as well.

@Vee19811 please start your own thread.
There are lots of women that may be able to help you.