One sided counselling

[tractorgirl123]

Has anyone successfully had some kind of counselling to sort out relationship issues when your OH would never dream of going too as he just wouldn’t let someone else know his business?

CBT is a good form of therapy that helps you deal with situations personally. As in how to control your own feelings and reactions. Worth a bash to help you. And it will prove to him that you are willing to take steps to save your relationship

Yes, one sided couples counselling is possible if you want to work on your relationship. If you want to work on yourself then personal therapy may be better. There are many types of personal therapy and different ones work for different people. I would say it depends on what issues you want to work on which type you would go for. CBT or a solution focused therapy can be really good for some things but person centred or psycho analytical can be better for others. Do some research on the different types and see what appeals to you. Therapy has been a life saver for me in my life both after my marraige break down and in my current LT relationship.

Are the problems yours alone? Has h any interest in change?

Therapy is best done alone - it is always about the two individuals in the relationship anyway.

CBT is not advised for individual relationship counselling (see Swedish study over 10 years). Person-centred, psychodynamic, psychoanalytical, humanistic are all forms of therapy that have you, and not your behaviours, as the core focus. (I always tend to recommend psychodynamic, as that's the one I feel has the best results.)

But you certainly don't need your husband to come along. You'll start to see that that was never really the point.

@AFistfulofDolores1 do you have a link to said studies? Interested. Sounds like there is so much more to explore

@trustpilot - I found this (albeit after a v brief search):

www.scottdmiller.com/revolution-in-swedish-mental-health-practice-the-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-monopoly-gives-way/