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I know what I need go do but dont want to

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changed1 · 18/06/2019 20:54

Yesterday me and my husband where at a event with a few other couples to he had a few drinks, I didnt as ttc, around 2 hours into the event which was an all day event, he decided it was time to come home, I didn't really want to leave to so told him so and his mood totally changed was short and snappy with everyone. Finally get home and he just loses it screaming and shouting at me then runs at me grips my hair and threw me across the room, winded me and has bruised all my side this is not the first time something like this has happened and I've had a few slaps from him over the years. Got up this morning and acted like nothing happened no apology nothing. I know its not acceptable and I need to leave but how do I? I have no job no money children to support and just feel terrified no matter what I choose.

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something2say · 18/06/2019 21:03

Your local dv service xxx they do this every day for women, they will help you make a plan. Might you report that assault and do you need medical care? Might bruise photos help? Even ones you take yourself for a rainy day xxx if he kicks off again 999 xxx you dont deserve your life to be in danger xxx 999 tonight if needed and DV service tomorrow first thing xxx

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 18/06/2019 21:08

Why do you want another child with this abusive, highly dangerous man? You need to do as @something2say suggests, ASAP. He could easily have killed you!

category12 · 18/06/2019 21:18

OP, you could report him to the police. It would be useful to have his violence against you documented - if there's DV, you will be eligible for legal aid.

You might not feel ready to do that, but it is an option you have. You could potentially get a non-molestation order and/or occupation order for your home.

You really need to speak to Women's Aid or domestic abuse services in your area.

xELENx · 18/06/2019 21:20

Do you have family nearby? If so, leave at the earliest opportunity and take your children with you. If you can stay with family for a couple of days whilst you reach out to the relevant services then that would be the best thing to do. You aren't safe with this 'man'.
Please don't put yourself or your children in danger by staying with him any longer. You should also report this to the police, it's domestic abuse and should not be tolerated. He needs to be held accountable for his actions.
That said, one step at a time. The first and most important step is to get away from him, then you can decide what you want to do next.
Best of luck to you, take care x

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 18/06/2019 21:35

If I were you I'd take the DC and go to stay with a friend or family member for a couple of days, give yourself a breathing space. Take action, make a plan. Decide what to do next.

You may end up divorcing him, you may stay with him - at least for a while. But I'd recommend reporting him to the police either way.

MrHaroldFry · 18/06/2019 21:59

Women's Aid. 0808 2000 247 Freephone 24hr National Domestic Violence Helpline
The helpline is answered by fully trained female support workers and volunteers, who will answer your call in confidence. All calls to the domestic violence helpline are free from mobiles and landlines.

Dragongirl10 · 18/06/2019 22:54

Oh op l am so sorry, but you do have to leave for your and DCs safety...

First avoid sex like the plague, invent thrush or something, if you don't leave straightaway get iron clad contraception, don't tell him.

Next call Womans Aid, report him to the police, plan who you could stay with in an emergency.

Then pack an emergency bag for you and dcs, hide it somewhere he won't find it.

Please find a way to leave go to a Refuge or friend, you will be eligable for benefits.

DoYouThinkHeLikesMe · 18/06/2019 23:00

Please stop ttc!

And follow the advice on here.

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