Faked orgasm

[londongirl101]

In 6 years I have never faked an orgasm, I don't always orgasm! If it's not going on happen I tell him. But tonight I faked one - what does this mean!!!!

He was pestering me for sex and I gave in.

Some positions I really don't feel him inside of me he isn't small probaly average.....

It means you need to set some clear boundaries and not 'give in' when you don't want it.

Also if there are some positions that don't work for you don't use them! Not all positions work for all people.

Already? I've not even had my dinner yet.

Does he pester you often?

I've faked when I wanted it over and done with. Not a good sign really

Did you fake it to get him to stop/hurry up?

It's not OK to be pestered into having sex you don't want.

Hmm...I've never orgasmed through penetration, only through direct stimulation so if DH is doing his best and I'm not feeling it, I just ask him to stop.

Tips for orgasms during penetration welcome! 😆

I've never cared whether I orgasm or not, I like all the befores and afters better. Men make a big deal out of their partners having an orgasm which is why women fake them sometimes - if they don't, it could go on forever and that's not a good idea when you need your sleep.

I have been told that men fake orgasms too, too tired, too drunk, they just pretend it was wonderful.

To confirm - thinking back I could tell he wanted to finish haha..... I think I just pretended so it kind of gave him the go ahead....

I found myself quite bored and for the faking part it came naturally....... wonder if he bought it.

Yes he pestered me as soon as I arrived home from work.

Also I have never had an orgasm via penetration - I had my vibrator out whilst we was having sex!

In terms of positions I might look into it - I love doggy ;( !

Also unpopular opinion - cowgirl does nothing for me - is this size related or not? Or am I doing it wrong ???????

Also yes I bet guys do this!!!!

I've had a situation where he actually came and carried on and I was like I can't be this wet then I realised but he literally denied it !? And said it came from me .... I was like honey I think I know what's mine and yours haha.....

Oh the joys!

Tips for orgasms during penetration welcome! 😆

Any position that allows both direct stimulation and penetration at the same time?

Although DH does say that doing both at the same time can be a bit like that thing of patting your head and rubbing your stomach at the same time.

So maybe something like cowgirl or spooning or sort of missionary with you on your back and him either sitting or kneeling upright rather than on top of you? Really any position that gives him one hand free.

If doing both at the same time is a bit too much then how about getting him to use a magic wand (or other type) vibrator while you are in one of those positions?

By the way, using a magic wand while you're having sex can definitely be a very interesting experience.

You're doing nothing 'wrong' OP- a great deal of people don't climax from penetration alone, this is extremely normal.

Sex is supposed to be a mutually beneficial activity to my mind. Climax is not the only or end goal, just that too people have a fun/pleasurable time. If you feel obligated to fake it clearly it's not that fun if it has you overthinking.

Are you sure you actually feel comfortable with this person. Pursuing a relationship with someone you feel unable to say no to and feel obligated to placate is a rather large red flag. 'Giving in' to sex you don't want is presumably pretty miserable. Him harassing you if you have said no is vile, does he respect your decision if you say you are not in the mood? Or keep pushing it? Or are you saying you just don't feel comfortable rejecting him?

I wouldn't put up with any of it frankly OP.

I really don’t think faking is the right way to go OP. Quality sex is shared sex. Pestered for sex is not shared.

As for positions, why do people het so wound up about how they climax? We are each responsible for our own orgasms. I climax from penetration extremely rarely, but oral hits the spot for me with various friends over the years. I don’t see that as a problem.

As for the comment on the time of day, I think so many relationships go wrong because, if you live with someone, sex becomes something you do when you go to sleep. If you live solo, sex hapoens more on desire and passion. In my book, night time bed is usually for sleep. Pre-dinner aperitif sex and, at weekends, pre lunch sex is particularly lovely.

Nothing quite as attractive as a guy pestering for sex!

I’d have told him to piss off and if I did sleep with him I certainly wouldn’t reward him with a faked orgasm!!

Nothing quite as attractive as a guy pestering for sex! hmm

Why is it when men pester for sex it's unattractive, but when women do it's just awkward?

He shouldn't be pestering for sex. Would imagine the faking is due to you not being into the sex due to his pestering/neither of you having much of a clue about what you like

Women would not fake orgasms if men understand women sexually and weren't so hung up on not being able 'to give' an orgasm. If they only realised it's just not like that. It does happen sometimes though, cannot be predicted, but all the accompanying activity is really nice so why worry?

Faking an orgasm, if you really know what you're doing, can be great fun and hugely satisfying.

No-one should pester for sex, it's horrible and shows a great lack of self control. However I understand anyone who yearns for closeness and affection or who feels neglected. It's not always about sex.

To confirm I agree with everyone's posts!

The only time I orgasm is if I get my vibrator out because he actually says he can't be bothered to go down on me!!!!!!

Maybe he goes down 4 times a year it's annoys me SO much he used to do it all the time back in the day. Does anyone else have this ........

No wonder he is not doing it for you, he sounds a lazy lover. I hope you do not give him bj's more than 4 times a year either.

he actually says he can't be bothered to go down on me!!!!!!

Are you serious. Kick this useless twat to the kerb and form a mutually beneficial arrangement with your vibrator.

Can't be bothered. Dear god.

Anyway my tips for faking it:
If you can sense he's getting near, start talking all porny and like you're about to orgasm. "Oh my god yes, that cock feels so good in me, fuck that pussy, oh god yeah I'm gonna cum, oooooh I'm cumming, oooooooohhhhh!" If he still doesn't finish after that, try "Come on and give me that big hot load of cum, I want it in my pussy/mouth, give it to me baby, I need it now."

Lots of guys feel they "shouldn't" orgasm until you've got yours, but have no idea how to get you there. If it's casual/transactional then just make it easy for them.

Tips for orgasming during penetration:
Make sure you (not him!) have access to use a vibrator on your clit. Do not for the love of god let him try to rub your clit during penetration. All kinds of awkward and clumsy.

Cowgirl:
Great for starting off/warming up with a guy who has a larger than average penis. You can control depth and speed.

Reverse cowgirl:
If he doesn't have a longer than average penis, forget it. If he has a longer than average penis then I still forget it as it's one of the most awkward, counter intuitive, non rhythmical positions I've ever attempted.

I am guessing he is happy to receive oral from you?

Oral? What’s that? I haven’t had any of that in more than 10 years. Depressing! I think I remember when sex used to be something hot & fun that happened. God if I think this could be it for the rest of my life then I might just chuck myself off a cliff now!

@FuriousVexation great tips!!! Deffo feel 0 in any form of cowgirl haha!

@dragonway I think we need to make big changes in our sex lifes!

I have asked him and he said it takes to long and can't be bothered.

He asks for quickies!!

Tbh over the years BJS have lessened purely because it annoys the hell out of me that try and please him sexually in all ways but he doesn't like to do me.

My ex was wild and wanted to please me in any way! Was always down there and now I'm with the absolute opposite!

Woe is me haha