It was my birthday last month and I'm still slightly smarting over what happened. My DH asked me to tell him what I wanted. I sent him 5 messages with links to the exact items I would have loved, all he had to do was put his CC details in and click 'buy' on one of them. (I had hoped he could see the sort of thing I liked from these messages and get something different along those lines, but would have been delighted if he'd bought any one of the items I'd sent him).
So, birthday arrives, and when he gives me my present, it is a family gift - not something just for me. This happens every single year, and every single year I get upset about it. One year it was a backpack, one year it was a set of garden chairs. One year I think he even gave me a compass. I'm not an outdoors adventurer! I just wanted something pretty.
He's not going to change, but I can't help being disappointed. The thing he got me was 3 times more expensive than the thing I wanted, and I don't understand why he couldn't for once, get me what I wanted on my birthday. He thinks I'm being unappreciative of the family gift, I think he's a dickhead for not just getting me something that I wanted, for once!
I'm feeling really blue about this. It's his birthday in a month and I'm tempted to do the same back, but honestly don't think he'd care and I also want him to see how much thought I put into his presents in the hope that one day he'll do the same. Anyone else in the same boat?