Do you think he likes me?

[DoYouThinkHeLikesMe]

Ok people, give it to me straight. I am crap at recognising the signs and wouldn't know if someone were flirting with me without a neon sign. Is there a chance this man could like me?

About a month ago, someone I know introduced me to a friend of his in the pub.

To give a bit of context, I've seen this friend out before but I've never spoken to him. I find him attractive and so my default response has to been 'ignore and pretend you haven't even noticed him'. Because, as everyone knows, that's how you get to know someone.

I have noticed him looking at me on occasion but I've, naturally, assumed it's because he thinks I look like a tit when I'm dancing or something.

I'll try and keep it brief but based on this would you think there's a chance he is interested or was he just being friendly to a slightly tipsy woman? Tbf, I'm not going to give you a lot to go on!

1. We were sitting near each other. I saw him look in my direction a few times but didn't look back at him in case he was just looking in my general direction rather than at me. As you do.

2. Man I know called me over and introduced us with a " Man, this is Woman. She also shares similar interest and is a oddly tells him my profession " we shook hands.

3. He asked questions about my involvement in the shared interest. He volunteered some information about his involvement in it. Obviously, I didn't ask - having the social interaction skills of a mushroom but I made all the right noises. I hope.

4. Said he'd seen me out before but had just never spoken to me. I said that I'd seen him out before too but had not spoken to him either. Which, obviously, he knew already. (Not the greatest revelation - but means he's noticed/remembered me). It's been a few months since I last saw him.

5. We were standing quite close but not intimately so. There was lots of eye contact during conversation but no obvious flirting (tbf, I wouldn't recognise flirting unless it was really obvious!) and lots of smiling. He laughed at my, completely hilarious of course, jokes.

6. End of the evening we both said it had been nice to meet the other and we hoped we'd see each other again soon and shook hands again before leaving.

So, go on, do you think he likes me?

Sounds like he was being friendly

Damn!

I think maybe he did but if you’ve not seen him in months why does it matter?

The Bridget Jones style of writing makes this difficult to read, but from the gist of it I would think he was just being friendly.

Sorry OP!

Anne because I'm curious.

Ah well!

I think he likes you. Did he maybe ask your friend to introduce you?

I don't know but I like your writing skills and I'd be interested...

Why are you so down on yourself?

Is this some kind of meme or something?

If you want him, just ask him out, christ it's not difficult

Yep.
He asked friend to introduce you both.

Hopefully, you will see him again soon and , as you now have been introduced, you can both greet each other in relaxed fashion and see what happens.

He's probably confused with how you've treated him. Sometimes, it's better to just make an effort if you like someone and deal with rejection after.

He's probably confused with how you've treated him. Sometimes, it's better to just make an effort if you like someone and deal with rejection after.

Agreed.

But you don’t have to see it as a rejection as such. You obviously like him a lot so give it another go.

Chat to him, give him eye contact, see how it goes.

Yes there is a chance he likes you. Be more obvious.

I think he likes you and asked his friend to introduce you to him. Either that or he hs been asking the introducing friend about you and friend told him to chat to you.
I would get his number

Make eye contact and smile at him, relax a bit and it gets easier, stop trying to play a game where you act not interested. If you want him, make it obvious

I think he likes you but is shy. Just get his number and text him “it was nice talking to you blah blah, do you fancy a drink sometime?”

• life’s too short for regrets - he could be the love of your life!

onanothertrain and redshoes hmm it hadn't occurred to me that he might have asked mutual friend to introduce us. Although the tone of it did strike me as 'odd'. It sounded a bit deliberate.

Haha thanks pog

FuriousVexation I was going to say I'm not down on myself but then I reread it and I see what you mean. I'm not really down on myself, just aware of my limitations I suppose. I'll see what happens next time I see him.

Thatsalovely... yes, you're probably right. I see him as being a bit out of my league if im honest and just assumed he wouldn't be interested 🙄

I asked because there's a chance I'll see him again soon and was just feeling a bit curious. I'll feel happier talking to him now we've been introduced.

You are down on yourself. Woman up and change your behaviour around men you fancy, if you’re looking to date that is.

I think he likes you

Next time you need to suggest a date.

Shaking hands before leaving sounds rather formal and business acquaintance like to me?

Anyway I hope you both meet again and that he likes you too, you sound fab and I like your style of writing!

You obviously like him a lot so give it another go.

Well, I find him physically appealing! Not sure we said enough to know if I like him a lot but will definitely talk to him next time I see him.

It was definitely a deliberate introduction and not just done in passing. Friend called me over to them to introduce us. Oh..!

Tbh, the last few relationships I've had I did the asking out. I dont have a problem with doing that but it would be nice to be asked!

Right I will have to be confident and chatty next time I see him!

Shaking hands before leaving sounds rather formal and business acquaintance like to me?

Well that's what made me wonder. Perhaps he felt it was more respectful than a sweaty hug at the end of the night!

Maybe I am a bit Loopy. I'm not actively looking to date particularly as I've had quite an emotional year so far for one reason or another.

But I wouldn't he averse to chatting, taking it slowly and seeing where it goes.

Exactly, OP, now is the time to enjoy every little interaction and not worry too much about where it goes. Maybe it'll just be a few conversations, maybe you'll go on a date and decide not to take it further, maybe it'll be more. As long as you just enjoy the present, it doesn't matter which of these it ends up being.

❤

Why don't you ask your mutual friend whether he's said anything?