When the sexting is better than the sex

[KurriKawari]

Partner and I been flirting over text and that soon turned to sexting, which I enjoyed. Then we actually had sex last week and while it was nice, it wasn't the wow we were both expecting. Since then he's been sending me detailed texts about what he wants to do when we meet next, and honestly I feel more turned on by that than when we actually had sex! Part of me thinks maybe we'd built up too much first time, or that cos we have been friends for so long it was gonna be a bit different first time, or maybe I should just tell him to cool it on the texts? We are crazy about each other and I really hope it's better second time. Has anyone else had this and how can we/I make sure the reality lives up to the expectations?!

Well your imagination will rarely line up with real life, we only see the perfect stuff there, not the awkward fumbling, or teeth clashing.

Why not use the texts to get you in the mood and relax a bit, over thinking it, is not going to improve the sex. You've only done it once, it gets better as you get to know each other and what you like. The pressure you are putting on it will ruin it

When you're sexting you get the best version of everything - he says he's touching you there and you hear that he's touching you in exactly the right spot using the right pressure and rhythm.

You're basically comparing the sex of your dreams with real life so it's always going to be no contest.

The good news is that you're clearly both comfortable with talking about sex so use that to tell him what you like and what you would like.