Oh nice, thanks, my fault that someone else is a shit.
No. Not at all.
It's a really good point to make.
How many threads on here are basically pages and pages and pages of some poor woman disappearing up her own backside trying to find out WHY HE DID THIS TO ME and WHAT IS HIS DEEP MOTIVATION - is he depressed/scared of commitment/it must be the other woman? - the poor woman recounting the long tearful conversations where CheatyBoy weeps out his excuses and she's there going oh yes it must be x,y,z because the thing is HE LOVES ME and so there must be this amazing reason, it was all a terrible mistake/somehow he didn't realise what he was getting into when his penis slipped into Brenda from the sandwich shop you see...
And nine times out of ten the actual answer to it all is that he cheated because he could, it was fun and easy and he simply didn't/doesn't care about you or respect you enough not to. The end.
And that's what that comment sums up so well. That the trap people on here so often fall into is assuming that the cheater roughly has the same depth of feeling they do. They'd never cheat, or if they did, it'd be a huge thing. So cheater must be on the same wavelength - I mean, he's my loving partner blah blah.
No.
Nine times out of ten, if someone cheats on you, it's because they don't care about you or respect you enough not to. Nothing to do with you - all them. And thus the sensible thing is to dump them, because they will, of course, probably do it again, and even if they don't, you now know the core of it - they don't really give a shit about you. Well, not enough to come above a quick fuck.