Fiancée no longer believes in marriage

[MysteryManchild]

Wwyd? Have a dd with him, he proposed a year ago but has been dragging his heels and looks uncomfortable whenever I bring it up.

It hurts me. Marriage is important to me. I was engaged to my ex and planned my very dream (intimate) wedding with him but caught him cheating so called it off a few months before. Honestly I feel a little like guys will propose to me but no one actually wants to marry me. Why do I feel so heartbroken over this?

You are trying to force him to marry you or else the relationship will not last. Thats not on, just continue on like this pressuring him and i think you will find this relationship will draw to its natural conclusion and end.

OP, if his debt is in his sole name, then in the UK you will not take on that debt even if you marry.

But, I'd think hard about this relationship. He clearly doesn't want to marry you, and I suspect you'll be happier on your own.

You may not automatically take on his debt but if he has poor credit you will find it hard to get a mortgage and if you want a house you will eventually end up helping him pay it off so that you can buy.

Anyway that's besides the point. The mna you marry should be over the moon that you said Yes and not have to be shoved down the aisle like a grumpy toddler.

You’re so desperate for love that you’ll take what you can get?
Arguments sound toxic and he’s not your dream guy?
You need to look to yourself and fix that first. You deserve better.

I'd bloody walk away, amend your DD's birth certificate so that your surname is on it too and don't bloody tell him (I'm guessing she has his!) and tell him fine, you can keep your debt aaaallll to yourself, I'll find a real partner to have my forever family with.

Oh bloody hell I just saw your last post I'd missed.

Good lord walk away. He's crap. Be PLEASED that in addition to being lazy, selfish with money, not on your team and a bit of an all round craphound, he doesn't want to get married. Because you don't even really love him.

Move on with your DD, let him be a father but you don't need this kind of 'partner' dragging you down.

As far as I’m concerned the relationship is over. He’s now backtracking and saying he will marry me at the end of summer but I would always feel like I was never enough.

I’ve never felt enough for him. Think he probably still pines for his ex. Feel like such a loser. Please tell me there’s someone out there for me

Yes!

There absolutely is.

But you won't find them and they won't find you when you're stuck with Twatface in the house

So I am glad you've called it a day. Well done. Nothing to raise the spirits like knowing you can see right through the bullshit and you. don't. need. it.

He is wasting your time and doing the worst thing a man can do and lead someone on. He's probably the sort that if you left his pitiful backside then he would probably marry the rebound out of spite.

I know this is hard but if you choose to waste your youth with this current one, then you are wasting valuable life. No one ever wanted to marry me, but did rebounds etc, so yea feel your pain tbh OP.

OP. Regardless of no joint accounts, once you marry him you are then liable for half his debts!! Don’t marry somebody with huge debts!! You’ve got a child to protect!!

This is utter bollocks and simply not true.

I don’t personally think that because someone doesn’t want to get married that they are not into you. That is nonsense

Aw OP, you deserve so much better than this and of course there is someone out there for you! But you’re not going to find them while you’re tied down to this idiot! It will be tough at first but you need to leave him in order to improve your life in the future.

You are also unlikely to meet someone good for you whilst your self-esteem is so low. You should take a good year out of dating to work on your relationship with yourself first. Once others see you treating yourself with love and respect you will attract others who will treat you the same way. This means focussing on your own needs, making an effort with your appearance (for yourself, not for others), taking time to do things you enjoy and intentionally spending time with people who make you feel good (friends and family).

Wishing you all the best