Finally severed ties completely with the man that made my life a roller coaster of emotions. I was with him for 7 years. First 6 months were love bombing followed by years of being controlled and verbally abused. Luckily he moved to another city so for the last 5 years it was a LDR that was more off than on and now I’m pleased to say I have shit the door on him for good.
I keep wondering why I put up with it for so long and think it was because I kept remembering the first months and thinking he was hidden somewhere inside. I now realise the love bombing was actually hiding the real him. The one that calls me name, mocks me and my family limplied I was suffering fro dementia and basically turned me into a booty call for his own needs
So what do I do now. I’m 54 and fancy free, time to focus on me. Not sure I ever want a relationship again. (I’ve only had 2 relationships. I met my children’s father at school and was with him for 28 years (he was a bully too. My DD has a restraining order against him). Then I met this abusive man. So not much luck on the men front
Just wanted to share as people on MN have supported me over the years with all the things he put me through. I went back to him so many times. This is it though. Nothing happened this time, I just realised I had to end it and have done so.