I miss him

[Isthisreallife2019]

I separated from my partner of 17 years a month ago. I feel so desperately sad. I miss him as in miss having him around, as a friend and as a partner. We fell out of love with each other and I know I'm not in love with him anymore but I can't help but think maybe we could just get over that and carry on as a couple. I know it sounds ridiculous. We separated for a reason and all this is probably normal after having such a long relationship. I just miss what we could have had, all our plans, we built a life together and we had plans for our future and all that's gone. Every time I see him I feel sad and regretful but that's normal right? I don't even know what's normal. All I know is that we fell out of love and things were awful towards the end with the bickering and resentment. So why do I feel like half of me is missing and I made a mistake?

I'm sorry you are going through this, it's totally normal to feel this way but don't try and rush back in. Let yourself get used to it, you will feel better sooner than you imagine, I promise. Before I met my now DH I was in a long-term relationship for 5 years and we were engaged. Like you, we grew apart and there was a lot of arguing and resentment. I felt like you, I just missed him being around and I was really sad for a while but within a couple of months I was feeling stronger and knew we had done the right thing. I know it's a cliché, but get out, keep busy and before you know it you will feel better xx