Single again at 36

[BillieEyelash]

What is being single in your 30's really like?
Finally letting go of a relationship that does more harm than good and wondering what my future might hold...
Good bad and ugly please

I'm 36, came out of a LTR (18 months ago which was 8.5yrs long, he cocked up massively and I ended things).......

I am literally having the time of my life! I have one DC who is 6. Ive reached the point where I'm happy being single and on my own, I'm not sure I'm ready to share my life/space with anyone in any great hurry again 😂. I've been out on a fair number of dates but I've reached the point now where I'm doing it to meet interesting people and have fun.

I fill my time at the weekends by planning to go and visit friends and doing stuff by myself. I took myself out for the day the other weekend, went out to a museum and poked around there for a couple of hours, lunch dated myself and did a bit of shopping. I had an amazing day and I've done it a couple of times since.

This weekend on Sunday I'm heading out to a workshop thing which I found on an app called Meetup.

I've got a list of things I want to do before the year is up and I'm slowly ticking them off one by one. I'm basically so busy packing in everything I can while I've got the energy and drive to. Some weekends I just don't do anything and chill out at home and watch a good box set..... The fact I literally have no one to answer to but myself is so liberating. I love it 🌈

The first few months of being single were difficult for me but I look back at that time as something I had to go through.

If and when I do meet someone, he's going to have to be pretty bloody special.

P.s. I forgot to add.... The majority of my friends are in a relationship or married off, I think I'm the only single one left.

They see me as the fun one to go out with and moan about Their OHs.... I do lunch dates, girl days out etc. But I can count on one hand how many close girl friends I have but it works for me.

I'm single again at 38 and all my mates are married with kids - so I've been using meetup to find groups and go out and have fun it's been brilliant so far and I've met some great intelligent women. It's a nationwide online platform and I'd highly recommend it for people in our situation. I did a bit of going and doings things alone but prefer sharing experiences.

36 is a wonderful age to be single. You're confident, know what you like and don't like, very attractive qualities.

Enjoy!

I’ve been called names for this before, but we are (wiser) adults! And not ashamed.

Sexual health is important. Pop a few condoms in your handbag because you never know, it doesn’t break the bank. Ironically, l finished up “loaning” one to a friend in need one who criticised me for having them just a few months previously.

Became a single mother by choice aged 39 via IVF with sperm donor. The best decision I've made. Decided cannot do anymore OLD/relationships going nowhere etc. Am open to meeting someone, but without the pressure of creating a family/having more children/cohabitation/marriage etc. - in other words, 'relationship escalator' moves....being single and in a position to choose how to organise life....it can be life changing!!

I think there's a big difference between being single at 36 and (possibly) wanting a family and being single at 36 and already having kids. The latter takes a LOT of pressure off.

I was single between 32 and 34 and didn't enjoy it much, mostly because that's a prime time to get started with having kids, and I hadn't even met anyone yet. Looking back, I regret spending so much time wallowing in misery because it's also a great age to enjoy things you didn't have the money for in your twenties, like travelling. I now don't think I actually want kids anyway, so all that fretting was pointless.

I was single From 32-38 with a few flings and met my
Hubby OLD when I was 38. I had a great
Time traveling, socialising, generally eating and drinking and doing exactly
What I liked! Now 51 and happily married - we still give each other
Space to enjoy our own interests as
Well as having lots of shared time. Enjoy your freedom and grasp
Every opportunity x