Worried exH won't return the kids again

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Some of you might remember my thread from last Monday when my exH refuses to return the kids and reported me to the police for assault of dd. Total bollocks and no further action taken by police or SS except to refer DDs to counselling services and me to DV services.
He collected them (late again) yesterday and I'm now anxious he'll not return them. He did tell dd she couldn't live there but there's nothing to stop him deciding to keep hold of them again for an extra day or too. Although they don't have their school things so maybe this is just my anxiety talking. I went through hell earlier this week so am still pretty raw.
Both him and his gf (ow) are doing their best to alienate DDs from me, especially DD1 who he is involving in the further abuse of me.
I won't be able to settle until they are safely home so will keep myself busy but it's such a huge worry.

Hi Greyrock, I read your previous post and am appalled at your ex and his behaviour. Can totally understand why you are feeling so anxious. I don’t have any good advice, but I wanted to send you some

If he does it again, you will have an excellent case for a "lives with" order. Applications for child arrangements are £200 at family court.

Make sure everything is communicated in email.

@PicsInRed I already have a CAO that states dc live with me. It didn't stop him though and he alleged I assaulted dc1 so he had reason to breach it.

My ex did almost exactly the same down to returning younger sibling (Shes too much work!) Eldest has always been on a pedestal and has been alienated. Similar age to your DD too. They only want him so they could claim CM (doesn't pay for any of his other kids obvs) & dad can have a 'friend' as he is also abusive of his current partner. Court has done what it can but SS messed up massively & let it run on for too long 😡

I would (and have) felt exactly the same. This is part of his game to continue controlling you. There really is no good advise it's all a game of holding your nerve and hoping he's not going to be that much of a prick.
I think the only thing you can do is keep busy and be kind to yourself and just see how it pans out. Try to avoid over thinking about it all, I know easier said then done. X

What I was going to say is that I suspect he does it for an reaction, to keep you on edge. The least reaction you give the better.

What time are they due back? Has eldest got a mobile?

You need his address op. A judge said exh had no know mine even when I wasn't happy about it. Means you can turn up at the door of need be. He causes a scene you have the court order and ring the police. You can have a power of arrest attached to the court order I believe.
You need to keep a diary of their behaviour after seeing df. Parental alienation is now an offence. Ask school to monitor them too. A teacher can be a great support /witness if need be.

I know where he lives but have never been there and never will. In part because I'm unable to drive and also because I'd never willingly go to the home of the woman who he said was going to attack me. She denied this but the damage was done really. SS, police and courts not interested in what she says and does. I've documented everything but the rights of the child to see their father trumps all it seems.

They are home. Starving as they haven't been fed properly and pissed off as they'd dad slept in until midday so they've not seen much of him. Pointless contact it really is. And dangerous contact mode to the point.

Glad they are home Op, food and cuddles now x

I'm so glad they are home. As above food and cuddles needed. I hope you are keeping a detailed diary.