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Is this normal?

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Outdoorsie · 16/06/2019 06:06

So myself and boyfriend had 6 days away recently. It went well, except for the fact that he had to do 'the deed' every day, something I'm not used to as we don't live together. For the last 2 days I was like, here we go again!

Then when we got home we'd a day apart before we met up at mine before he went away for 5 days with friends. This was at lunchtime, and he tried to initiate things again. I just didn't really feel like it at this time of day and said no.

Was I reasonable?

OP posts:

Auellica · 16/06/2019 06:10

There is no reasonable. If you don’t want to, that’s your choice. It shouldn’t be an issue. Was it an issue for your bf?

BringOutTheTiniestViolin · 16/06/2019 06:21

Yes. It's normal.

On both counts.

It's fine for him to want to have sex every day; it's fine for you not to want to.

sadkoala · 16/06/2019 07:34

It sounds normal on both sides.

You don't have to be in the mood for daily sex but he might be. No one is forced to do anything they don't want to.

IMO it's quite normal at the begining of a relationship to have lots of sex , before the excitement and novelty wears off and whilst you're still in the honeymoon period. When me and DP first got together we would spend hours in bed back when we had no committments of day to day life.
If we went away/spent a weekend together it would have been daily or more.

Now we have DC's , live together and the normal life stuff gets in the way it's probably very average.

Don't mean to ramble on but what I'm trying to say is that what you said in itself isn't a red flag and quite normal. However saying that, you shouldn't just give in and have sex if you don't feel like it.

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