Am I over reacting?

[mummytoone1]

Evening everyone,

Me and my partner had an argument over something quite silly tonight - I was trying to have a joke with him and he then went all serious and started swearing at me quite loudly on the landing by our daughters room.

I then go downstairs to get some stuff and say I'm going up to bed. He then says why am I overreacting and stops me from leaving the room. He doesn't touch me but just blocks the door. He has done this before a few times and I have told him it makes me feel really anxious when he does it but he still carries on doing it. He then starts imitating me and says I'm acting like a 2 year old all while still blocking the door. He eventually moves but then tries following me around the house.

Am I overreacting or is this not normal behaviour?xx

Well he’s a nasty shitbag isn’t he?

Posted too soon sorry
I think you should let it all calm down and speak to him tomorrow.
Tell him how you feel and make your line in the sand clear.
It’s not acceptable to make you feel anxious.

Kick him in the nuts and see if he wants to block your path again.

Not at all normal. If he's done it more than once and you've told him you don't like it (who would?) then he's being especially shit.

You've told him repeatedly how his behaviour upsets you and yet he blatantly ignores you.

His behaviour is worrying and not normal. Time to think about how an entire life living with him like this will be.

Thank you all for the reassurance that this is not normal behaviour. I knew this already but just wanted to make sure it wasn't me overreacting like he has made me feel. Will let him calm down now tonight and have a chat tomorrow!x

No, it’s not normal behaviour.

Turning a joke into an argument, swearing at you within feet of your daughter, minimising your feelings, intimidating you and gas lighting you is not the behaviour of a decent person.

Sorry OP but he sounds scary. Anyone who blocks your path, shouts and behaves in such an intimidating way is not a safe person to be around. And all of this in front of your child! My Ex did this and I didn’t leave after the first couple of times. I had lots of chats with him about his behaviour and said that I wouldn’t put up with it blah blah blah but of course I did and It escalated and and he got gradually more abusive. I used to ask him why he behaved that way and he said because I can!!! When I eventually left he was so shocked! He said I never thought you’d leave me! . Don’t let it slide OP.

This is intimidating behaviour. I couldn't and wouldn't be with someone like this.

What @PixieDust26 said.

He sounds unstable

Sorry you've gone through this OP. I have had experience of similar which eventually escalated to physical violence and being thrown to the floor. It's a precursor to something worse. I know how hard it is but find the strength to walk away. You don't want your daughter growing up and seeing that, thinking that's what to expect of adult relationships. Good luck ❤️

Sorry to hear that brighteyes, I hope your doing ok now ❤️

Had a good chat today regarding last night and his certain behaviours and he has assured me that it won't happen again. I used the example of whether he would want our daughter to go through the same and I feel like that hit home for him! Thank you all for your advice and support xx

Not normal in any shape or form. Absolutely abusive, bullying behaviour.
Not to be tolerated.

You have had a chat, see if it effects change.

If not, you know what you have to do for your daughter's future and your own.

Best of luck.