I am currently using dating apps, it’s rare i find someone who I end up chatting to on there in a good way and feel like I would like to go on a date with. But when I do I get so so nervous that I am catfishing them and they’ll be disappointed when they meet me! Not so much my face as I think I look basically the same as I do in photos.. but my weight. I am not hugely overweight but I’m definitely not slim, I’m fine with my size really as I know I’m healthy and it’s me, but most of my photos are my face or shoulders up and guys could easily mistake me for being slim. Obviously I would hope that guys aren’t that shallow and aren’t explicitly looking for slim girls but who knows? We all know slim is what is conventionally attractive as much as it sucks - because it’s what we’ve (women and men) been taugjt. How do I get over this fear and go to dates with an attitude of feeling enough and the knowledge that any guy who thinks I am too big isn’t the guy for me? (And get over the fear that thinking this will mean being alone forever)
Like I said I’m not hugely overweight and I’m healthy, i don’t want to lose weight just for dating..