Hello,
This is my first time posting on MumsNet, but I have been a lurker for a while.
My boyfriend and I are in a predicament.
We have been together for 3 years. We met at the school gate, of all places. I have 3 children and he has 4. Mine are (now) 6, 8 and 12. His are 6, 7, 11 and 15. Both of our youngest two are in the same class. His 11 year old is a school year younger than my 12 year old but only 4 months age difference.
His children are with him 24/7 as mum sadly passed away when youngest was just a baby.
My children are with their dad 3 nights a week (including every other weekend) plus has them 50/50 during school holidays.
Up until now, everything has been going along nicely. The nights my children aren't with me, I stay at my boyfriends house with his children. Our children see a lot of each other, and get along fine. But have never spent more than a couple of nights at a time together.
We had no plans to move in together, happy the way things are, we live 3 miles apart and see each other all the time.
However... I found out I'm pregnant and now 22 weeks and we can't decide what to do. To begin with, we said well we'll sell our houses and get a bigger place all together. Then we started to discuss carrying on the way we are and him coming to mine or me to him with the baby. But now we are back to wanting to move in together but terrified because of how the children will be.
The children know about the baby and keep asking where baby will be living.
Can you give me tips/advice/reassaurance that blending two families together can work?