Not really a question - just a bit of a vent, I guess:
I've been divorced for 5 years after walking out on my ex husband. He was never physically abusive but did play mindgames with the best of them and was very controlling. Anyway, less than a year after the divorce he re-married and now has two children with wife #2.
He and I work in the same industry, so we'll inevitably cross paths. And we're good for the most part in that we get along, chat, etc. we run into each other.
So I bumped into him at another industry thing yesterday. We went to grab some coffee and engaged in some small talk, including me asking about his family. And then, he decided to go for it:
Essentially, he ranted and whined for some 20 minutes about how desperately unhappy he was and how all his life choices had been bad and how he hates being a dad and kept on bringing up how this "had cost him his marriage" (obviously referring to the one he was in with me). No mention of his poor wife. The whole thing was basically a self-pity fest on the scale of the millenium party.
I left feeling gutted. It's not as though I wish him ill or anything of the sort. But surely the wife and kids deserve better than him ranting and whining to his ex in this way? And, let's be honest, he's just looking for something on the side and probably thought he might be able to manipulate me into it. I feel as though I've wronged his wife just by standing there, looking puzzled and attempting to change the subject.
Gah! What was I thinking when I married this man???