I have been married for 10 years and together for 15. He has never been what is considered easy to live with. its a case of when he is good he is very good but when he is bad he is horrid. i moved to Scotland 8 years ago because of his job and its just the two of us. He has always been controlling. he likes it his way and i suppose i was happy to go along. im very easy going. in 2016 he had a mid life crisis and wanted an open relationship which agreed to . thinking it would get it out of his system. It didn't but he stopped as i said i was leaving. from there his demands got more. if i had a threesome that would be better. i tried it but it was more his thing. he settled down again fro a year but then i had to admit i had got into a lot of debt. some my fault, some due to a house i rent out. he agreed to help me and took a loan for 13k to clear the worse. i paid the monthly payment and even signed to say it was my debt. from that second he became a monster. power trip was not the word. he was so bad i agreed to sell the house and clear my debts that way. press the reset button so to speak. the house sold in 6 days and im waiting for it to complete. Its very stressful for me and ive been depressed due to loosing the house i worked so hard for and his power trip. he now has said im to old for him , he wants other women and unless i change and see to his needs he is leaving. i have told him to go. we haven't spoken for 4 days. Part of me is excited for a quiet life and having a life that's mine im sad as i will have to move from Scotland and i will have to start again. im scared he will talk me into staying but im grieving for my marriage and the dreams i had for us both. any advise ?