Ex partner not noegotiating moving on

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Hi
I was living with my partner for 15 years (not married) we have a 14 year old son who resides with me. My partner left over 3 months ago as he was having an affair. He does pay some child maintenance but nothing towards our mortgage. He has had 5 valuations on our house so far and is ignoring the estate agents and myself and will not negotiate a settlement. I could stay here until our son is out of education, however, with me paying the full mortgage I would prefer to pay him off. I am unsure where to go from here - he says he is not happy with the value of the house and that was the last communication I had from him. I did not want to keep paying for solicitors but wondered if I should just go to one and try and get things moving along. He is benefiting from my paying the mortgage every month currently.

Keep a solid paper trail of all payments you have made into the mortgage; you can deduct half of these from his share of the settlement after the house is sold.

He is not happy with the value of the house... aw, diddums. That's nicely vague. What are you supposed to do about that?

Have you had any legal advice?

Hi - I don't want to sell which is the problem, I have a disabled son and he is really set up here. I went to see a solicitor initially and they said I could apply to stay here but would look at buying him out to get him off the mortgage. They also said he would be entitled the equity even if he has not contributed to the mortgage - I will double check this though. I know he wants more than half of the equity and this is why he dragging his feet .

He wants more than half of the equity of a house he isn't paying the mortgage for and that his disabled son lives in? Sounds like a charming man.

Please protect yourself here! Yes, double-check how much he is entitled to. I'm not sure how much you can push things along but hopefully someone with more legal knowledge than me will answer...

Yes I have come to realise how much mental abuse I actually took over the years but I just want to move on and ensure I look after my son. If nobody on here has any legal advice I may end up paying again for solicitor - I think that is usually the case though. thanks for commenting.