Do you know your DP's phone passcode?

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I see threads all the time with locked up phones and people wanting to snoop but can't due to password changes/never knowing it etc. Do you know your DP's password? I know DH's and he knows mine. We don't snoop (to my knowledge) but I'm always able to get in if I wanted to, same for him. I thought this was normal?

Is it not the done thing? Do you know your partners passcode? I'd be very suspicious if he changed his without telling me/if I'd done the same he would be suspicious.

The only reason I have a passcode is in case my phone gets lost/stolen. Everyone in the house knows the passcode to each others phones.
This has proved very handy when I had an accident and my son needed to use my phone to call my mum & husband. I was unconscious so of no help.
Also handy when I picked up my husbands phone and went shopping with it by accident and he had mine

I did but I’ve forgotten it 😂 He would give me it if I asked. He knows mine but we never snoop. I ask him to look on my phone sometimes though if I’m busy with something.

Yep. Both know each other’s. Also his pictures upload automatically on yo my iPad. They are very dull. He doesn’t snoop. I occasionally look a5 his as he’s crap at remembering to tell me which of his family have said yes to bbqs etc....

We don't know each others but I have shown him mine in the past but he doesn't remember it (he's our IT dept). I don't know his but I could see it if I wanted too.

I know his... he doesn’t know mine, he has never asked. I’d tell him if he asked. I don’t go through his phone though.

yes. I know his passwords to his computer, email accounts, banking - everything. Even his work stuff.

Why? Because I'm the family IT support and he's a luddite who can barely operate a phone.

If I didn't know them, he'd be stuffed.

Yes, we know each others. This is so we can use it if needed. Or if I need DH to send a message for me whilst I'm driving, or I need to check an email for DH whilst he is doing something.

I know his, it’s Sher... when I eventually asked why it’s so he remembers it is Sher-lock mine is DDs birthday, don’t know if he knows it or not though.

Yep and he knows mine.
My ex however... if I so much as looked at his locked phone from across the street he would have a hissy fit.

We have the same password. I'm the household IT person.

We know each others yes. I don't snoop though. I would if I felt I needed to.

I know his, he doesn't know mine, altho if I had 2 mins warning I could delete anything I needed to hide.

He's told me a few times but I've forgotten. I've never felt the need to go into his phone without him so it's not a issue

Going into a phone is like reading a diary. It’s wrong whether it is left in a drawer or locked away in a box which you force open. Being in a relationship does not give you ownership of their thoughts and feelings.

Setting a standard that we must share otherwise we are hiding something is wrong. Abusers will use this argument as part their control tactics. Instead of lecturing people to share, because otherwise they are shady, we should be empowering people to set good boundaries.

Yep we know each others. Again we use each others phones if we are out and one has better signal and one of us is driving for example

My girlfriend and I know each other's. Neither of us have bothered turning message notifications off on our linked tablets either so we pretty much often see what the other is receiving.

I've told her in the past to scour through my phone if she has a funny 'suspicious moment' - pretty sure she never has.

Nope, and he makes sure I can't see his pattern to unlock. Also makes a pantomime of looking away when I unlock mine. He's rather obsessive about privacy for cultural and professional reasons.

Yes we know each others codes, but then we trust each other and neither of us have anything to hide.

I know his, he knows mine! We don't snoop, or atleast I don't and I don't think he does but I'm all honesty I wouldn't care if he did because there is nothing there!

Knowing the password is a false sense of security. I have my work emails on my phone, so no, I wouldn’t volunteer my passcode to a partner.

I don't know his, he doesn't know mine

No - his is a fingerprint password and he doesn't know mine.

Setting a standard that we must share otherwise we are hiding something is wrong. Abusers will use this argument as part their control tactics. Instead of lecturing people to share, because otherwise they are shady, we should be empowering people to set good boundaries.

Agree with this. Not sharing a password doesn't mean you have anything to hide, and that mentality is quite controlling. I wouldn't tell him my MN login either, and i haven't even spoke about him! Privacy is a good think, lack of isn't.

Yes I know his and he knows mine. But I don’t snoop and he doesn’t either. Privacy in relationships important. And so is trust.

We don’t have each other’s passcodes but if we needed it then we would happily share. It’s funny that some posters suggest that not sharing passcodes shows a lack of trust - I’d see it the that not sharing passcodes shows MORE trust. I don’t have any need to check my husbands phone. It’s not about privacy or trust for us it’s just that we have our own phones and there is never any need to use the other persons.