Kissing.... so underrated!

[OhMyDarling]

Sooooooooo I’ve been ‘seeing’ an old flame. Known each other since we were 16 and over 20 years later and had several flings that fizzled for minor reasons, but this time it’s so different.
It’s like there’s electric between us (as always) but we are taking things sooooo so so slowly.
And oh my, 6 weeks after initially bumping into each other again, seeing each other once a week, speaking everyday, always having a text convo on the go... on Saturday he kissed me.
Oh my gosh, it was amazing.
Not a full full on snog, just a slow lingering kiss on the lips. And when I opened my eyes, I drowned in his.
Feel like a teenager again!!! Full of butterflies and everything!

Can we just take a moment to discuss the joy of kissing.

I don’t have many friends and none that I’ll see -apart from him- so can’t hush over it with anyone in RL... so please endulge me!

Ahhhh I feel like I’m dancing on a cloud!

Usually the first thing that goes by the wayside when the initial phase wears off sadly. So many men cannot kiss without wanting a shag and if a shag or grope isn’t on the cards they can’t be bothered. I miss dating for this reason. The first couple of years are always the best.

Oooooohhhhh he just messaged me saying he keeps thinking about our kiss.... that’s it, I’m off to google good songs for a first dance at your wedding (inspired by another three on here- currently ‘You do something to me’ is in the lead)!

*thread not three.
Must proof read my posts!

I don’t think it always falls my the wayside but it’s a big barometer of how things are on other levels. I remember the last time I kissed my ex, we’d been doing it for 8+ years and it got crapper until the last time I knew everything was dead and it made me feel a bit sick.

I fancy the pants of DH and the sex is great but the kissing hasn’t been replaced.

Is it possible to have good sex with someone you’re not mad about kissing? Not in my experience but I wonder.

Yes you can have great sex with someone who doesn’t kiss all that well. You can also have amazing kissing sessions with someone who might not be able to make you climax all that well. I’m lucky that I get to have the best of both worlds with my OH.

I love this thread and feel very happy for you, OP. How lovely. The butterflies you describe are just so great, aren't they?

When I met my new bf we had this long, fantastic date and I felt like I'd known him for ages but at the same time wanted to know more and couldn't learn enough about him. It's hard to explain. It wasn't just a physical attraction but a feeling that we just clicked and it needed to be both physical and emotional.

At the end of the date it just felt really obvious that we should kiss and so I stopped him before we got to the station and said, "I feel like we need to kiss."

I would never normally be that forward but it just needed to happen.
He agreed and we had this wonderful, lingering, hungry but delicate kiss.

I'm not as patient as you though. I waited a week after that to sleep with him and that was as long as I could stand. The sex is absolutely amazing as well, which is a bonus.

There is nothing as good as that first, fantastic kiss in the first flush of lust. If there’s one thing I will miss now that I’ve got my (absolutely wonderful) man, it’s that.

I still love kissing my husband after nearly 20 years together, lots of practice has made perfect. Still makes me feel all shaky and weak at the knees.

What a lovely thread! Kissing is one the most erotic things you can do IMO.

I have a really good sex life with my DH but unfortunately snogging, for me, is something I can only really get into while in the passionate first throes of a relationship. My DH said he misses it with me and, although I love him and we always greet with kisses, the full on snog is a thing of the past for us, sadly.

I miss a good kiss(er). One guy I went out with was amazing - I used to say he was the other half of my kiss. The last guy I dated, he would just break off the kiss with no warning! Weirdo.

Occidental, can I ask why you feel like that? If you're sad about no snogging then why do you feel you can't do it any more?

My GF and I still kiss all the time and it makes my stomach flip. We are very good at kissing each other. Prior to her, the last amazing kisser I experienced was a FWB on and off from my late teens to mid 20s. We would never have worked as a proper relationship but we were both in agreement that our chemistry and specifically our kisses were electric.

Other than those two, I’ve always found that proper kissing dropped off the radar in long term relationships. No sign of that yet this time and I don’t think it will stop.

Kissing is amazing.

I often read on MN about how women can't bear kissing their dh's and it leaves me wondering how on earth they ever got close enough to get married. A bad kiss would have me running out the door!

Enjoy OP

My gf and I have a 12 week baby, on top of her two previous children - so understandably there's not much going on in the bedroom (and with the baby's current sleep pattern that won't change any time soon.)

The kissing has always been amazing with us, and it compensates entirely. We can't do more, we can't get away with more, but it keeps that fire and intimacy alive. Makes us both still feel desired and not 'forgotten' by the other I guess.

I’m totally going to indulge in a good kissing session tonight! ❤️

Yes, it’s intimacy at its most intimate and vulnerable, really - you can get carried away sexually and not really be aware of yourself, but with kissing it’s different, it’s...well it’s just on another level.

Closeness and fire.

@LoafofSellotape I didn't enjoy kissing my ex-DH but DP....I could kiss him all day every day. We kiss a lot!

Ah this is a perfect thread for what's been on my mind lately! Went on a first date on Saturday night, and when he kissed me (gah, he just went for it, in a lovely and confident way) there was definite magic. Such fun. We ended up walking through the city, talking, and stopping every so often to kiss, just standing on the pavement and forcing people to walk around us.

Very much looking forward to a repeat.

I agree with you all, kissing is amazing, I could do it all day! My boyfriend and I kiss lots. He runs his fingers through my hair, strokes my face and holds my hands (not all at the same time) and it's just the most passionate and beautiful thing ever.

I think you can tell LOADS from the way people kiss, even just a peck in front of others if that is your wont

I find it a really good barometer of a relationship

Might snog dh's face off later!

Oh, I love a good snog, DH and I had a full-on erotic snogging session earlier (one of the benefits of working from home), we've been together 15 years and I adore kissing him, there's something about the smell of his upper-lip that makes me quite weak!

Oooh I love kissing and my chap rocks at it. It's so sensual and amazing!
It's a good barometer for how DTD will be in my experience.

@michaelbaubles it's weird - I actually said to a friend a while back that I'd love to have just a snogging affair with someone, as that's the only bit that's missing from our relationship.

I know DH would like to snog but it was never one of his good points, although he's very good at other things!

My DP before him was the best kisser I ever went out with, but like others on this thread, we weren't very compatible long term in other areas.

Agree, OP!

I had an ex who was great in bed, but it was like kissing a plunger

DH and me have been snogging for 50 years and it is still very lovely.
I've never properly kissed anyone else, neither has he, but it's never bothered us.
Soppy buggers