To be slightly weirded / flabbergasted at this

[BlancoNita]

Ok, I am not sure what I think about this but maybe your opinons could help.

I run a little blog giving lifestyle tips, beauty etc, last month I went to my friends hen party in Manchester, I met a friend of hers, she would be quite a good friend of the hen, ( the hen is my best friend but I live abroad) and she told me she loved my blog, was able to tell me all about things I have posted about, that's fine, we chatted she seemed nice , all had a good weekend.

When I got back home it came up that this girl had started following me, strange as she was obviously viewing all along but hadn't followed. I didn't think anything much of it, and followed her back as we had became friendly on the hen.

Met her again at the wedding, and she was full of chat and again talking about my page and how she was getting so much tips from It, I was delighted and all had a great day .

So I see she doesn't follow me anymore, but is still viewing my content and stories every single day. I still follow her, she has also messaged me with praise every so often.

I find this really strange, its like she doesn't actually like me but likes having a nose on my page?

Am I being paranoid or would you think this also? I have never given her any reason not to like me, we don't cross paths and wouldn't know each other apart from our mutual friend?

The following and then unfollowing - yes strange. But think about it - she seems to like what you do, maybe she would like to do something similar and seeing yours right under her nose when she is not choosing to look at it - I'd say its that.

Private ly because she doesn't want to see notifications but wants to read when she clicks on it

Sorry forgot to mention this is Instagram, so she wouldn't get any notifications as such that's what has me a bit

So she literally has to type my name into the search bar everytime she looks at my stories etc. A lot of effort in my opinion.

The follow/unfollow suggests shes trying to build her own page up - and i’d say she’s using your page for inspiration and she’ll start ‘copying’ what your saying/doing/hashtags. The follow/unfollow trend on Instagram is quite bad at the minute with everyone thinking they can be a ‘blogger’ unfortunately.

Don't overthink it. She was clearly positive.

I agree with above. She’s likely to do the same type of thing you’re doing. Looking for ideas and inspiration. Either ask her outright or block her if you don’t want her seeing your posts.

No, she definitely isn't planning on starting a page, she has a job, she isn't looking for followers etc, my friend did say she is very nosey, when talking about her to me before, that she gossips a lot.

It made no difference to me at the time as I don't see or have anything to do with her, but now it has me thinking she actually dislikes me but is watching everything I do.

She definitely wouldn't be following or unfollowing because of count values etc. She's not that active on her own page, a handful of photos, she basically is always online but more of a voyeur type social media user.

I don't know what she's up to but can you see who has looked at your posts on instagram? So if I've been having a good old nosy on someone's insta I pop up?

No, crustycrab, only if you view their stories on Instagram, not their actual pics they post on their grid. Don't worry, we'd all be shagged if that was the case.

Oh phew 😅

I think you need to ignore her. I would actually stop following her but that's probably considered petty

There are plenty of people I don't follow but might check out if they appear on the suggested things you would like page (or whatever it's called).
I often follow people for a short time then unfollow if e.g. they post a lot and/or I'm trying to cut down the volume.
TL:DR people use social media in different ways. Don't give it another thought.

Wish I knew what everyone is talking about

I do this - I unfollow people that clutter up my feed by posting lots, of who have new stories ALL the time so that it knocks Everyone else’s content in to second place. I still like their stufft though, so will goto their page when I can be arsed to see what’s going on.

Ive not been on any hen doo’s lately though so it’s not me

I wouldn't know a blog if I tripped over one, so it's not me either

I also unfollow people who clog my feed then just search for them if I want to view

If there are 'professional' bloggers on your feed, they push out the ones from friends and family. Nice though some can be to look at, if all you see are tips and style advice, it's easy to miss the things that are important.

It's not anything to be weirded out or 'flabbergasted' by. Using overexaggerated language such as that to describe your reaction to somebody who has only been nice to you - just because they obviously don't want to be constantly seeing your posts every time they pick up their phone - makes you sound slightly self absorbed, too.

No not at all strange

It's totally standard for people to have agendas entirely of their own and randomly stalk people on the internet.

I do it. Loads of people do it. Entirely random reasons.

Purience about who is dating an ex-bf.
Hatred for a bitch at school who you've not seen for 20 years but are delighted to see has failed at life.
Irritation at someone who seems to be your best friends best friend (even though she lives abroad)
Annoyance at someone who was once rude to you.
Idle curiosity about someone you met in passing.

If you have any open online presence, there will be lots of people who are checking you out for less than good motives.

Wake up and smell the java.