Am I being silly?

[Amyldp]

Hey everyone,

So my sweet baby boy who is 7 months was crying today and I picked him up and was comforting him when my fiance took him off me and cuddled him instead. I asked what he was doing and he said he wanted to cuddle our son.

I feel like he completely disregarded me as a mam and felt like he thinks somehow he trumps me??

Am I making a big deal of this? Should i let it go?

Any replies appreciated,
Amy

I say this as gently as possible but I think you're overreacting a fair bit. Hormones etc could play a big part but if you feel like this a lot consider the possibility of PND.

I don't know what the fuck some of the OP's are reading but no is not normal for him to just take the baby out of your arms.

If he was trying to help surely you'd say do you want me to try?and then put your arms out not just remove the baby without a word.

The dictating when your poor DS can and can't have medicine and not giving you a say in what he can and can't eat is not normal OP!

I'd be getting away with your DS if I was you!

It would really annoy me if I was giving my DD a big cuddle and my partner (her dad) lifted her off me or interrupted that. I'd be thinking - and saying - "get your own cuddle!"

But that is me, and I haven't read your other threads so I don't know if what others are saying about PND might be an issue here?

Time to change the way things work at home. If your partner is meant to be working at home, it would be much better for him to do so in a room where he won't be distracted by you and the baby, which amongst other benefits would mean this sort of situation wouldn't arise. Is that possible?

I also agree that I'm not reading the same post as other posters. This IS controlling, and as a PP said (who someone then completely misunderstood), he is acting as though this is his son, and you are just the help.

Did anyone see the post at the weekend, where the husband and his family had alienated the baby from the wife when she had PND? This was one of the things he would do, - take the baby away from her. But even that guy would speak as he did it!

It is NOT normal to just walk up unasked and take a baby. Fine if he said, 'are you ok? Can I help?' But to not be given the option? Very controlling - as though the child his possession.

OP, speak to the HV if you get chance, and if you feel you are depressed, do go and see the GP. But before you decide you have PND, first be sure you are not surrounded by a controlling arse. That's enough to make anyone depressed, anxious and paranoid.

Hi - I deleted my registration as I had regretted posting tbh people took the post far too seriously and considered me mentally ill or anxious. I've re-registered to reply and then if possible this thread can be taken away.

I've talked to my partner about it all, once I got home he actually apologised etc. I told him not to just take DS out of my arms and just ask if his paternal urge kicks in, I don't mind at all if asked.

I was comforting my son, and his father who by anyone's definition is 'someone else' even if he is the dad, took him off me and I think I am fully in my right to be upset about it my partner said switching viewpoints he'd be upset too.

Talked about the medicine and food with him. He says he's way more proactive then I am. If he wants to give DS something or do something he will, if I want to, I usually ask. He said not to ask and just do. Which I should do but I feel like most things should be discussed im not sure if that is right or wrong.

Thank you to everyone who replied. hopefully future replies will be more understanding by some.

Amy