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Decided to leave after 14 Yrs of Rubbish

9 replies

Lookingupp · 10/06/2019 13:11

It’s funny how the smallest of situations can make you realise you have had enough.
The argument was over my son not getting ready for school, and I had a go at my son because it’s an occurring problem. Instead of being a unit, my partner decided to gun for me. Calling me a bad mother for telling him off in front of our son.
After years of cheating, sulky behaviour and always living in the negative I have had enough. I actually fantasise about living in my own place. Not coming down the stairs worrying what mood he is going to be in.
We have three kids together all under 7 and one with a disability (he doesn’t go to any appts) so it won’t be easy. I know he won’t believe but I’m going to do it. I sent him a text message this morning informing him, that I would be making new arrangements for me and the kids to live. Not to speak to me unless really needed. He hasn’t read it and I sent to him this morning.
I can tell this isn’t going to unfold nicely. He owns the house and we aren’t married. Wish me luck!

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PhannyPharts · 10/06/2019 13:39

I didn't want to read and run. I just wanted to say how in control you sound and strong and that I wish you lots of luck and best wishes in negotiating your new life

Lookingupp · 10/06/2019 13:42

Thanks so much. I know he’s going to be nasty about things which I don’t see helps anyone.
I just want to leave

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BelulahBlanca · 10/06/2019 13:46

Have you got a place in mine to stay?

HollowTalk · 10/06/2019 13:51

Good for you. Can you afford to move out?

user87382294757 · 10/06/2019 13:54

That sounds so frustrating. It can be so helpful if they support you and say 'listen to your mum' - not the other way round.

Iwishyouwell · 10/06/2019 13:56

^^

Lookingupp · 10/06/2019 14:14

It was just another excuse for him to have a go at me about something. He does the same so he’s a total hypocrite. Difference is I always back him.
No where to stay. Going to have to talk to my parents. They said if things ever got this bad they would help me buy a flat. I’m a sons full time carer so I’m sure benefits etc will help me out. Need to get all my ducks in order

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user87382294757 · 10/06/2019 15:10

Maybe you could get priority for council housing if needs be with your child's disability?

Antigon · 10/06/2019 18:36

I also think food for you. Might be worth seeing a solicitor about any rights you may have to the house?

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