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Father's Day question

11 replies

ikkledudette · 10/06/2019 12:52

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months and he has DC which he co-parents with his ex. I am wondering if it would be weird for me to acknowledge father's day?

I won't be with him on Sunday as of course he will be with his DC and ex (children are very young). I don't wish to intrude or make it about me, but I was wondering if I should at least acknowledge the day as he is a dad after all and I accept that as a part of our relationship.

Any input is appreciated.

OP posts:
mindutopia · 10/06/2019 13:01

I would maybe just send him a text and wish him a happy Father’s Day. I don’t think you have to do more than that.

PhannyPharts · 10/06/2019 13:42

Agree with the above, a text just wishing him a happy fathers day is all that's required.

Whats the situation with the ex? Have they been separated long?

xpc316e · 10/06/2019 14:16

If he is a good father who makes an effort to do what is right, then a card (or a text) from you acknowledging that fact would seem to be fine with me. If it were me who was your boyfriend and you did it, I'd be really chuffed.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 10/06/2019 14:58

Don't get a card, if my boyfriend got me a mothers day card I would find it strange. A text is good though, just text him something like have a great fathers day with your kids.

AgentJohnson · 10/06/2019 15:15

After 12 weeks a text is more than sufficient.

Shitfuckoh · 10/06/2019 17:25

I'd just send a text. If you were 3,4,5+ years down the line, everything wasn't so new & his ex didn't bother with celebrating Father's Day in any way then yes, I would get a card. Now this soon in to the relationship, especially as he has plans with his children & their mother

SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad · 10/06/2019 19:12

Nope - definitely not your place. I'm sure it's well intentioned, but it would strike me as properly odd!

Drum2018 · 10/06/2019 19:18

He is a dad but he's not your dad and not your child's dad so no need for you to do anything. At most I'd send a text saying you hope he has a nice father's day with his kids.

statetrooperstacey · 10/06/2019 19:25

A text, something along the lines of ‘ hope you have a lovely fathers day with your children, they are very lucky to have you’ . Might be nice but definitely no more than that.

Lllot5 · 11/06/2019 14:54

Nope no need he’s not your dad he’s not your children’s dad. Keep out of it.

Musti · 11/06/2019 15:44

A text is perfect

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