A cautionary note re WA?

[Pikapikachooo]

Have name changed ! Have issues with EA partner . But no violence, and nothing physical
But nonetheless an issue that needs addressing , and I am not brushing it under carpet

So called WA
They gave me a Local number
Called them and as was upset poured
My heart out . Treated it like I would a therapist . Was very open

Now have been referred to SS

So we need help . But SS ? Who wants SS involvement , especially when you don’t know what they have been told . And what they will tell other parties ?

I can’t fucking sleep for worrying

Feel so fucking stupid

Not sure if this is useful feedback

Or not

But honestly I wish I had handled it differently

Imagine you vent to your therapist and then find out they have reported your family for ‘safeguarding ‘ . So fucking stupid I feel

I know that re eldest

I have got the the stage I doubt my parenting ability and my own sense

He loves his dad . But he has also said he is walking on eggshells , and that all his friends have dads that don’t shout at them

Whether he would say that to SS is another matter as he idolises his dad

You know when you are on a torrent of rage and abuse you start to believe it

I feel so guilty as feel I have ‘ruined’ my eldest

Thanks everyone

Getme

May I ask was it verbal or verbal and physical if you don’t mind me asking x

@Pikapikachooo it was all verbal, emotional abuse, but he did hit my youngest once. I've had loads of support since leaving, but I know how scary it can be.

Saw SS and am fully cooperating
They think I am minimising it (probably am) and I told them I will do freedom programme

Which works for me as can’t face more counselling

Onwards

I am relieved it’s been somewhat taken out of my hands

Really want a but as I truthfully told them I have massively cut down I suppose I better not

That sounds positive, generally.

I've got into really nice cordials and fancy soft drinks as treats instead of booze.(I know it's not the same).

SS will just want to help you in this case.
You will be able to control your DC without him.
He is the one who is making them like this.
In a calm environment they will be so much better.
Onwards and upwards OP.

I didn’t drink 🍷
I think main thing today is pending worry and uncertainty and can’t tell people too
Much as don’t want others to know and not him
I have a support network but seeing people and pretending I am fine and listening to their problems (!) is weird feel like a liar 🤥

Ah maybe other people’s problems is Ok !

Start freedom this week