I asked for no contact but he’s contacted me.

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I split up with my bf two weeks ago. We’d been seeing each other for nearly six months.

By way of background, I separated from my son's dad last year after nearly 15 years together.

Met my (now ex) bf quickly through work. I ended the relationship mainly because I was just unhappy and suffering from anxiety. I really don’t think I gave myself enough time to sort myself out after leaving an unhappy and draining relationship with my husband - not yet divorced.

I asked (exbf) that we didn’t contact each other for at least a few months. I said we could maybe be friends in the future.

Since then he’s messaged me and emailed me at work, which I replied to later that day asking him nicely again for no contact.

This week he posted a card to me and sent me a message yesterday. I didn’t reply to or acknowledge either.

I know he didn’t want the relationship to end. I don’t want to be unkind to him. At the same time he’s not listening to me.

If he contacts me again, and I keep ignoring him, he may just keep doing it.

Should I get in touch with him and ask again for no contact?

It may not seem very nice but ignore him.
Block his number and bounce his emails.

Everytime you respond he gets what he wants and he may also think that it means that he still has a chance with you.

Yes just block his number, email, fb... That's the first thing I would have tried. Doesn't seem like a hard thing to do. If he posts stuff just throw it out. If you keep giving him attention by asking him not to then he would be more likely to continue. He will see he's getting a reaction out of it.

Ignore and Block every form of contact, do not respond because that what he craves.

Yes you have to block now.

If he continues trying to contact you through work, speak to your IT support person to have him blocked at server level.

You seem lovely but by replying (albeit noncommittally and politely) you’re giving him false hope. Blocking seems ruthless but it is actually the kindest thing.