I’m in the Process of splitting from my husband and have been seeing someone (let’s call him Fred) for the last couple of months. We knew each other a long time ago. I feel so comfortable and sexy with him. We can talk about anything. We message a lot and see each other once a week or so, for a couple of hours tops. The chemistry is amazing. He asks for very little from me, but has mentioned falling for me several times and sent me a message last weekend saying that he loved me. I am much more guarded with my feelings, but having not expected to be able to have sex again, much less a relationship, I’m tempted to let my guard down and see where it goes.
There’s a problem though. He’s a single parent to a child with additional needs. Child has no contact with his mother or her family. Fred’s parents look after Fred Jnr one night a week. Fred is self employed and works very hard to make ends meet, waking at 4am most days to work before Fred Jnr wakes up. He has a hobby which is also a source of income for him, and he tends to use his child free times at the weekend to do that. Evenings are difficult because of Fred Jnr’s needs.
I have a child too, and I’m hoping to share custody close to 50/50 when I move out.
At the moment, Fred doesn’t want to tell anyone that we are involved. He hasn’t had a relationship since leaving his ex and I’m still living with mine, I don’t know how long for. I’m happy to keep things casual at the moment, and I don’t want to affect his parenting (which is exhausting and tough for him as it is) but I’m struggling to see how he will ever have time to have me as the girlfriend he says he wants.
I’m so confused. I’m worried about continuing and getting closer and closer and then getting hurt, but I also don’t want to give up what we have together. And I believe him when he says he loves me.